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Deleted instagram and TikTok because I kept checking them, and when I check them I expect someone to have messaged me, but no one ever does, I’m so fucking alone it’s laughable.

Never realized how much of a fucking loser I actually am until now, growing up I was weird, never bullied but definitely not accepted with normal people.

My love life is another fucking joke, either I mess things up by saying something wrong or I just fucking mess shit up, or I don’t have the balls to say how I really feel, and I don’t even know the first thing abt talking to girls anymore, maybe I never did.

Fuck, am I really gonna die with this mindset? Like this?? That fucking suckssss, FUCK.

My mind is so full of negativity, to the point where I think my brain has become addicted to the chemical signals it receives from said negative thoughts. Damnit, just fucking dammit.

19M, So recently I’ve been healing from my first long term relationship, it was great she sent me a note when we first met and we hit things off smoothly. Fast forward till now, we broke up a few months ago and ever since I’ve been trying to get back into dating, so I used dating apps, hinge tinder, the usual, and my success has been very dull. I would text women and they’d usually instantly ghost me for reasons I’m not completely sure of, apart of me thinks I need to know the secret code/language to sway a girl my way, and the other part of me simply wants to be genuinely interested. And I usually am, I can easily switch my mind and heart to simply open myself up to people and getting to know their story, is that a turn off for woman? I genuinely feel like it is because whenever I put myself out there that way I feel like a boy doing too much and then I just feel stuck feeling like a complete loser.

Basically what I’m saying is that I’ve tried dating apps, even approaching women in person (99% of which said they have a boyfriend) and feel absolutely rejected as whole, which makes loneliness hurt even more, because now it’s not only that I feel rejected on a small scale but instead by all these women that have either ghosted me or have simply said their not interested, and I always take it to heart even if I tell myself I won’t. Why do girls do that? If you’re not interested just say that, why even entertain anything if you’re not interested, I genuinely think something is wrong with me.

And I know I should use my loneliness as an opportunity for growth but sometimes those moments of boredom or loneliness where my phone is dry and empty I feel like such a goddam loser for even trying.

Also I think of myself as relatively good looking, I’m not the hottest guy in the room but I don’t think I’m hideous, I workout occasionally and have a good physique. I just feel like I’m doing something wrong considering ALL these girls rejected me, and I just can’t get over this for some reason.

I’m mainly looking for advice for coping with being alone, I know there’s a way to make loneliness feel good and fun, I’m just not there yet.

Does anyone have advice as to how to get through this?

19M, So recently I’ve been healing from my first long term relationship, it was great she sent me a note when we first met and we hit things off smoothly. Fast forward till now, we broke up a few months ago and ever since I’ve been trying to get back into dating, so I used dating apps, hinge tinder, the usual, and my success has been very dull. I would text women and they’d usually instantly ghost me for reasons I’m not completely sure of, apart of me thinks I need to know the secret code/language to sway a girl my way, and the other part of me simply wants to be genuinely interested. And I usually am, I can easily switch my mind and heart to simply open myself up to people and getting to know their story, is that a turn off for woman? I genuinely feel like it is because whenever I put myself out there that way I feel like a boy doing too much and then I just feel stuck feeling like a complete loser. Basically what I’m saying is that I’ve tried dating apps, even approaching women in person (99% of which said they have a boyfriend) and feel absolutely rejected as whole, which makes loneliness hurt even more, because now it’s not only that I feel rejected on a small scale but instead by all these women that have either ghosted me or have simply said their not interested, and I always take it to heart even if I tell myself I won’t. Why do girls do that? If you’re not interested just say that, why even entertain anything if you’re not interested, I genuinely think something is wrong with me.

And I know I should use my loneliness as an opportunity for growth but sometimes those moments of boredom or loneliness where my phone is dry and empty I feel like such a goddam loser for even trying. 

Also I think of myself as relatively good looking, I’m not the hottest guy in the room but I don’t think I’m hideous, I workout occasionally and have a good physique. I just feel like I’m doing something wrong considering ALL these girls rejected me, and I just can’t get over this for some reason. 

I’m mainly looking for advice for coping with being alone, I know there’s a way to make loneliness feel good and fun, I’m just not there yet. 

Does anyone have advice as to how to get through this?