What should I do
I have been with my girlfriend for three years now, and until recently, we haven't had any major ups and downs; everything has been running smoothly. We met in her hometown while I was a student. After I finished my studies, I stayed there solely for her, even though the job opportunities in that small town were terrible.
Six months ago, her parents decided to move to the other side of Europe. Since my girlfriend and I are just starting our careers, we initially thought it would be a good idea to go there too for the opportunities. However, I later regretted that decision and told her I didn't want to move. I want to try building a life here in our own country. She got angry because she felt I was changing our plans.
The truth is, I never wanted to move somewhere with her parents in the first place. If we are going to start fresh, I want it to be a completely new experience for both of us. Furthermore, I wouldn't know anyone there, whereas she would have her parents and siblings as a safety net.
We stopped discussing it for a few months while we wrap up some business here. The problem is, neither of us wants to change our minds, and we also don't want a long-distance relationship.
I don't know what to do or how to make her understand that I want to be with her, but just not under these circumstances. I feel like she is forcing my hand—it feels like an unspoken ultimatum: either we move, or we break up.