r/WhatToDo

How do y'all find these men who wanna give you what you wanna experiment ??? Like you wanna try things and u find them?? How? Sorry I know I suck at typing or whatever but seriously. Like what if I wanna know what it feels like to be with a real eater.. where is he?

I’m 13 years and feel like I’m wasting all my teen years. This summer break lately my days have been filled with just watching tv, and scrolling my phone most of the time. I watched many of those “6 hard truths” videos and they have made me more worried and depressed about my life then anything, I tried to change my schedule around by getting up and making breakfast before anything and doing a little journaling. But I still feel like I should be doing things that are more productive. The saying “How you spend your days is how your gonna spend your life” (I’m not sure if that’s how that goes) has made me very anxious and worry so much that sometimes I can’t sleep. I really need some ways to change my life around, plead any help would be appreciated! And I will answer any questions that come about.

SO BASICALLY I WAS AT HANGOUT WITH MY FRIEND AND WE BASICALLY CONFESSED TO EACH OTHER RN AND WE BOTH DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO BECAUSE WERE SCARED OF REALITIONSHIPS AND ARE SCARED OF BREAK UPS

I got a total of 2A* 4As and B in First Lang English, I'm giving a retake but should I give First lang English or Second lang English?? (I've 1 month)

Are there any major pattern differences between them and is it doable in a month? I'm not the best at English but I do believe I can pull an A/A* as it's more abt techniques and practice.

Anyone who got good grades in any of these pls lemme know 😭😭

Need some info from the masses, please. I spent more than 30 years working at, owning and operating automotive repair centers. I’m researching how vehicle owners handle situations where they don’t trust or understand a diagnosis or repair estimate. What is the move? Do you just do the repair? Google it? Have a " car guy" you call? Since my entire life has been in this industry I am checking with strangers since all of my friends, family etc always just called me.

hi so i’m going to an hbcu in va (sophomore) but had to take online classes because they ran out of dorms so now i’m in the north and my bf is also going to another hbcu in va (freshman) he’s been very reassuring and we have a great relationship, we gave each our expensive promise rings and he took me out the state for my birthday & so on… however, i’m feeling very anxious because i understand it’s his first week but it’s less communication between us like he texts slower, less focused on the conversation, we got into an argument because he followed three girls but they were just juniors who helped him move in.

what should i do to resolve this anxiety of mine?

Hello, I am currently waking up to my last morning at a very reputable and historical hotel that has now been owned by Omni for a couple decades. The stay has not been bad by any stretch of the imagination, but there have been a few moments that let me and my wife down. These instances have been very much service related.

For example, I was sitting on the front porch the other morning at 8 AM, as many others were, and there was a circle of valets and bellhops talking loudly, and using profanity. I curse a lot, that’s fine, but maybe not on the front porch of a nice hotel where many families with young children are relaxing or checking in. At one point one of the gentleman in the semi-circle loudly expressed, “well nobody is giving us tips anyways.” More so, it took them a long while to pull my car up, which wouldn’t have been irritating, but a couple other groups had their cars pulled up within minutes after I had already requested mine. The housekeeping staff get an A+++. But the front desk and restaurant wait staff was spotty. (Food has been excellent, but again, just not prompt, nor good service.)

Finally, as I have awoken this morning, a bubble has developed in the ceiling paint. It’s dripping and the ground is soaked. Fortunately, none of our belongings are wet and we’re out of here in a few hours. I pride myself on giving people grace and trying to understand, but to me this is getting a little ridiculous. I will tell them about the leak, but I also feel like maybe I should seek some kind of compensation. What does everybody think? I’ve been a little let down by this stay, but when I consider how much I’ve spent, it actually makes me frustrated. I’m not one to expect anything to be comped just because a couple minutes of my stay were unpleasant. But I guess I mean to ask, is it even worth complaining about? Frankly, if all they’re going to offer is apologies and maybe a gift card to here, or another Omni, I’m probably just going to go about my day.

tldr: i think i have accumulated severe sleep deprivation. im scared for my healt/life. am i just anxious or should i go consult a doctor/the er

for context: i have been diagnosed with a few mental health stuff years ago now (including bipolar disorder, ptsd, and asd). i used to be on sleep meds, have been for 5+ years. last year, during a relapse, i stopped taking them (to avoid crossing substances etc). i had been back on them briefly, but after getting out of therapy, missing a psych appointment, moving and not knowing how to get my prescription transfer to a new pharmacy branch without a new prescription, i was left with no medication since then.

its been nearly nine nonths without meds at this point? i have been unable to get an appointment with my psychiatrist too

ive been fine for a while, but for the past two months, the struggle with sleep has been getting worse. i find myself unavle to sleep and started dealing with synptoms of sleep deprivation. at first i would be unable to sleep for a night or two a week, but for the oast month and a ½/2 months, i have been stuck unavle to sleep for 36-50+ hours straight, crash for a day, then right back to being unable to sleep.

the symptoms have not only gotten worse, but are now persistent, including feeling bugs, seeing stuff move out the corner if my eyes, feeling jumpy and wired, being unfocussed and struggling to understand and remember anything, people looking uncanny in a way? i dont know gow to describe whats going on honestly, but i know that whatever is really happening to me is deeply wrong.

i find myself struggling to eat, no appetite or energy to prepare food for myself. the lack of sleep has started affecting my other health issue, mental and physical. i have been slipping deeper and deeper into a depressive episode, it destroyed my routine and so i am much less able to push through sensory issues unavle to mask etc, emotions all over the place, chronic pain worse than it usually it this season/weather, etc

currently, i have been awake and unavle to sleep for 40hours (maybe 42? not sure anymore?)

i have been unable to break this weird cycle through normal methods, no matter what ive tried, i am unable to sleep until i fully physically crash

i considered more than once using alcohol, benzos, codeine, or any other substance to try and force induce sleep, but i havent so far (dont want to relapse because of it)

i genuinely don't know what to do anymore. i feel like I'm slowly dying and i feel powerless at this point. should i keep calling my psych? my doctor? should i wait it out? should i go to the er? will the symptoms keep getting worse? can i die from this or am i just paranoid?

sorry im just so lost right now. its excruciating, painful, exhausting and scarry.

I'm terrified of going to the doctor/er if its not urgent enough, and i dont know who to ask irl about what i should do

does anyone know what i should do? should i try to make a new appointment? go to the er?

please

(also: sorry for grammar/mistakes/wording. i havent slept in 40+ hours, im struggling to focus explain and write. and english isnt my first language)

also if theres something unclear just ask

sorry i cant think clearwr than this

My boyfriend (32M) and I (33F) have been together for about a year and a half.
Early in our relationship, we talked about our pasts and our lifestyles, and he told me that he had a history of recreational drug use. Drugs are a huge no-go for me personally. I have never tried any drugs in my life and I’ve never really been around people who use them either.
He told me that this was mostly in his past and that he didn’t really do drugs anymore, except maybe once or twice a year at parties — things like MDMA or cocaine.
I wasn’t exactly comfortable with that, but everything else in our relationship was going extremely well. He is a decent, caring person, we get along incredibly well, and in almost every other aspect I feel like we are a very good match. So at the time, I basically decided not to make a huge issue out of it.
A few months into our relationship, something happened that changed things.
At the time he was still renting his own apartment. He ordered some kind of drug online and the package was intercepted by the police. Eventually the police contacted his landlord asking questions about who had lived at the apartment.
When he told me what had happened, I was extremely upset. We had a serious conversation and he told me he would never order anything like that again. I believed him and we moved on.
We now live together in an apartment that I own, and he has given up his rental.
Then, at the beginning of June, he went to work one day while I was at home cleaning. I found two small bags containing white powder hidden on top of a cupboard.
I immediately called him and asked what the hell they were.
His explanation was that one of his close friends was about to get married. Apparently this friend had lived a very party-heavy lifestyle before marriage but had decided that once he got married, he would stop drinking, partying and using drugs. My boyfriend said he had bought the drugs for one last night together before his friend got married — one bag for his friend and one for himself.
What bothered me even more was that this wasn’t even some huge bachelor party or special event. It was basically just going to be a normal Friday night out, and I was going to be there too.
Again, we had a massive argument. Again, we talked about it.
Meanwhile, the police situation from the package he had ordered about a year earlier suddenly came back.
His former landlord contacted him because the police were now asking about a woman whose name was connected to the address. It turned out she was the girlfriend of the man who had lived in the apartment before my boyfriend.
And then I learned something I hadn’t previously understood: my boyfriend had actually ordered the drugs using her name, not his own.
The previous tenants had moved abroad and had given him authorization to receive certain mail/documents on their behalf, and apparently he used her name when ordering the package.
At this point he became genuinely scared about the police investigation and possible legal consequences. He contacted a lawyer and is planning to speak to them about the situation.
I was obviously angry about all of this, but I also told him that if he was in serious legal trouble, I would still stand by him and support him through it.
Then, literally two days later, we went to a festival together.
I deliberately didn’t say beforehand, “I hope you’re not going to take drugs,” because after everything that had just happened — especially him being terrified about the police — I genuinely thought it went without saying.
At some point during the festival, I could tell that something was different about him. He didn’t seem like himself.
I asked him if he had taken something.
He said no.
I asked him again, more seriously.
Then he admitted that yes, he had.
I completely lost it. I decided I was going home. Then I realized my house keys were in my small bag, which he was carrying, so I went back to get them. Some of our friends were still there.
I took my things from him and, in my anger, I slapped him.
I know hitting your partner is not okay. I’m not trying to justify that part or pretend it was a healthy reaction. I was absolutely furious, especially because only two days earlier he had been terrified about potentially facing legal consequences related to drugs, and yet there he was taking drugs again — and initially lying to my face about it.
I went home and he stayed with a friend that night.
The next day he came home and we talked. I told him that I cannot live like this and that I don’t want drugs to be part of my relationship or my home. He told me he wouldn’t use them anymore.
But then, two days later, the conversation shifted.
He brought up the fact that I slapped him and said that I had massively overreacted.
He also seemed to soften what he had previously promised. Instead of “I will never do drugs again,” it became more like, “I’ll try to say no,” and “most likely it won’t happen again.”
He also told me very clearly that if I ever slap him again, the relationship is over.
And this is where I’m struggling.
I completely understand that I crossed a line by slapping him, and I don’t think I have the right to physically punish my partner because I’m angry. At the same time, I feel like the focus has now shifted entirely onto my reaction, while the pattern that caused me to reach that point is being minimized.
From my perspective, this isn’t just about someone taking MDMA at a festival once.
It’s the fact that he knew from the beginning that drugs were a major boundary for me; there has already been a police/legal situation because he ordered drugs; he promised me after that incident that it wouldn’t happen again; I later found drugs hidden in our home; we had another serious conversation about it; the police situation resurfaced and he was genuinely terrified; and two days later he still chose to take something at a festival and initially lied to me when I asked him about it.
I also find it difficult to understand how someone can be genuinely frightened about potentially serious legal consequences connected to drugs and then, 48 hours later, still decide to get involved with drugs.
I love him and, outside of this issue, our relationship is genuinely very good. That’s what makes this so difficult for me.
Please, I genuinely need some outside perspective on this. What do you think about this whole situation? How do you see it?

My name is Jessica I’m a 29 year old female and I have 3 kids all under the age of 6. My 6 yr old is staying with a relative to go to a good school district so I don’t have guardianship of her but I have my two boys (2yr. 4yr) I am married but the relationship isn’t good and I’m leaning towards divorce but He is a good father. He has said he would watch the kids while I went to basic training if that’s what I decided to do. Ihave had a horrible life growing up so I don’t have a lot of options, resources or support. Joining the military is something I 100% WANT but it’s also my only option to make something of myself also. I have no legal charges or anything I don’t get into trouble. I tried going back to school but due to a turbulent life growing up I found myself homeless at 18 when I first started college and they failed me for all classes I didn’t attend and dropped my GPA so I no longer get financial aid and would have to pay out of pocket for it. Ihave 8 days to drop my classes or try to file an appeal with The Board Of Education (I’ve tried before and they denied me and I have 30 days for them to reach a decision) I don’t have 30 days to wait I only have 8 and it’s a gamble if they will accept the appeal or not. I’m leaning more on joining the Navy, but I’m sure it has its price as well. Any advice or anything that can help is greatly appreciated. Idk what to do with my life but I want better! If you have joined with kids please let me know what the hardest part was or what challenges nobody told you about. Thank you anyone and everyone who responds!!!!!

Start date is Sept 1st. Any tips, tricks, or things to know about getting BS in Business Management at WGU?? Very nervous and excited. Would love to be prepared 😊

so me and this girl have been talking for a while now and i’d say i know her pretty well. we talk every day and everything, but every time we’re on the phone i get so awkward. i need help with some conversation starters because i hate that i’m not as much of a talker as she is

I've stayed up till 5 am 2 nights in a row my mum found out and will be really pissed off if she finds out I'm awake now. But I need to pee really bad before I go sleep but if I leave my room and enter the bathroom (right next to her room) I'll be eliminated from this planet

So there is this gal in my room that I met today saying she needed a place to spend the cus she has no where to go, she is currently sleeping but my instincts are telling me not to trust her and sleep but rather stay guard and see what can go wrong

Did I do a good deeds or I will regret it

Hey everyone! I have a couple of options for jobs, and I am not sure what to do. I sort of have an idea of what I should do vs. what I want to do. But I want your guys' opinion. So my current job is overall great! I make about $17 an hour, which is the most I have made at a job so far (I'm 22 with a bachelor's degree). Plus it is fully remote; I can work however many hours I want, work whenever, wherever I want, and it is super easy. It is such a great job (especially because my dad and I have to share a car currently). But sometimes there are days my job doesn't give me work to do, so it is not the most stable job while I am trying to pay off my student loans and medical bills. But my mom made me put in an application to a job I don't want to do, and now I have an interview set up. I have no idea how much I would get paid, but not only would I be working A LOT and have no free time at all, I would hate the job. The job is to work as a secretary for a police department in my county. I've worked as a secretary before, and I hated it. Also, I said I would never do it again. It would be very stressful since I would be working in the police department. I really want to just cancel the interview and continue working my current job until I find a job in a field I actually want to do. But for the police job, I might get some benefits (BTW I am still on my mom's insurance for another 3 years), might get paid more (won't find out till I ask at the interview), and it might advance my career. So what should I do? Should I keep the job I like, which is not always stable, and wait to find a job in a field I want to do? Or should I go to the interview for the police department and maybe take that job? If you have any questions, comment!

Help. My brother (m 49) is in a 10 year relationship with an emotionally & financially abusive partner (f 45). He is being verbally abused and isolated from the family. They have 2 young boys. He is the primary h/h earner, makes 200K annually. He cannot get ahead between rent, cost of living and out of control spending. I am in a position to help however I don't want to watch him burn up the money & still not get ahead. I am tempted to even offer her money to leave. They have fought in the past with her threatening to leave.

Should I help or wait until she leaves? She may never leave, doesn't have a job. I don't want to see him suffer. Do I wait until he hits rock bottom for a chance at real change to happen? Do I give him the money and explain this is it? TIA

Edit: They are not married, so divorce isn't an option. He will not leave his kids. Yes his spending is a problem too.

So, I told one of my friends that I REALLY liked him, we've been friends for a while, and I wanted to tell him before he moved away, but... I took someone's advice and lost a friend and my only reason to still live... What do I do with my pain? I probably should just give up dating for good, but I have been hated by everyone but him for years, and he was the one who I woke up for each day. Without him, I just want to fuck off and die!

What should I do to cope with it for now