r/WhatToDo

A random profile messaged me out of the blue asking if they could use my picture to draw for a "university art project." At first, I thought it was just a regular person, but then I remembered that another account had sent me the exact same message with the exact same story a few months ago. Because the messages were almost identical, I thought it might actually be the same person using a different account. To check, I took a screenshot of the old conversation and sent it to the her probably new account, saying "you sent me that once." It turns out a friend of mine also received the exact same message from them, which made me realize something was wrong,i thoight this was a scam or something. i wanted to know that is it illegal that i sent this person others person messages? Cause i’m still not sure are these girls even the same girl. (i did not send her any pictures of myself).

I’m 16 and i get easily overthinking even the simpliest stuff this already happened for years and i just couldn’t stop i always need reassurance that this is not illegal and i’m fine and no one is gonna arrest me or stuff.

Hi all, M23 here.
I’ll start with some context.
In April 2025, I finally got out of a very unhealthy on-and-off relationship with my ex (M27). We’d been together on and off for around three years, although things didn’t fully end until August 2025.
He left me while my Nana was dying and started seeing someone else after moving back in with his parents on the other side of England. I didn’t know at the time, but he’d started dating a 19-year-old drag performer. While I was begging him to come and see me for support as my Nana was dying, he kept promising he would and even talked about us potentially getting back together. The day she died, he admitted he was with this new guy instead, and I completely fell apart.
A few months later, in November, he was crying on the phone telling me he didn’t think his new relationship was long-term. Things got very messy after that, and when I threatened to tell his boyfriend about some things he’d said, he threatened me with a restraining order. Since then, I’ve had no contact with him.
It took me over a year after the breakup, including six months of no contact, before I felt ready to start dating again.
That’s where my current boyfriend (M25), who I’ll call D, comes in.
We’d been friends for about two years before dating. He’d supported me through a lot of personal issues, including childhood trauma and everything that happened with my ex. I genuinely valued him as a friend long before we became a couple.
We started dating on 16 May. Things felt healthy. We already knew each other well, he was incredibly supportive, paid for dates, had a good social life, and I’d always suspected he’d had a bit of a crush on me. I thought maybe this was the kind of relationship that starts the right way: as friends first.
For the first couple of months, everything was pretty normal. We had the usual minor disagreements about plans, timings, and little relationship things, but nothing major.
Recently, though, something happened that’s really shaken me.
Out of curiosity—and honestly because of the trust issues my ex left me with—I looked through his Discord and noticed his Twitter account was linked. I found a comment he’d left six days after we officially got together under a video of a guy masturbating, saying something like, “I may need to visit where you’re from.”
I confronted him about it. He apologised immediately, deleted his Twitter account, and said he was sorry.
The thing is, I’m struggling to separate what actually happened from the trauma my previous relationship left me with. Part of me knows I probably should have processed everything with my ex more before getting into another relationship, but another part of me is terrified that history is going to repeat itself.
So I guess my question is: now that he’s apologised and taken responsibility, what would you do in my situation? Is this something you’d be able to move past, or would it seriously damage your trust?

So, I need advice... Alright. I guess I'll start off from yesterday and go into how we got to this point? I'm 16, my mother is an amputee and is missing a leg from years of diabetes and blind in her left eye. Yesterday for the fourth we cooked and my mom was already mad and pissed off that I procrastinated cooking and got mad because I hate cooking and shes bed ridden right now and not allowed up and I didnt wanna cook all that she wanted it with it just being me, my girlfriend, and her. Well.. I cooked everything. I had procrastinated the day before in marinating the ribs and she wanted me to cook a sweet potato casserole, macaroni and cheese, and baked beans which I did. I had already ran to the store at 6 o clock that morning to get to our walmart by 7 so the food was ready by 11-12 and had been kept up the night before till 1 AM because I tried to go get the stuff from walmart before they closed (I didnt make it on time) after I got off of work, went and got her fast food from taco bell and didnt get home till 12 AM in the morning. Fast forward she had been nagging about me procrastinating that it ruined the food after the ribs were a bit salty and not as good as she wanted because I brought the stuff to her to season.. so anyways my girlfriend comes over and as soon as she walks in my mom starts telling my girlfriend "The foods not gonna be as good because someone procrastinated doing everything I asked this week" she then proceeds to go into detail about everything she feels like I screwed up on this week.. I'm gonna stop for a minute and explain that I'm a pretty forgetful person, I usually procrastinate and dont have the energy to do everything I want to. Continuing she went into detail #1. I had went to the store about 7 minutes away from our house got the stuff she wanted and forgot the card and had to turn back #2. I procrastinated earlier this week to go to the store before work which caused me to have to go to walmart after work which I missed in the previous part #3. I left a watermelon in the car because I kept forgetting to bring it up. #4. She brought up to my girlfriend everytime we argue I turn things back on her and called me a narccisist.. that statement really hurt me.. its eating at me and I was almost at the verge of tears infront of my girlfriend because she had pretty much ridiculed me and shared so much of our private information to someone who had just walked through the door. The person I've allowed into my life. She smiled throughout the entire thing though my mom did and I fixed my girlfriend and mom's plate, didnt feel like eating after that and we left afterwards for my girlfriends family.

This morning I wake up and she has to use the restroom and to do so she has to use pads, we were out of adult pads so I run to the store spend 14$ on em and get home and throw em to her on the couch because thats where she sleeps on and stays on, well hours later when shes actually able to use the restroom, part of the stuff gets on her blanket, I get frustrated and moody because to me its just so gross.. having to touch it and I'm kind of irritable about it and make it notable which I then had brought up yesterday and she said she knows she was wrong for it that she was sorry but I told her it hurt me really bad. To which she replied that she was sorry again and that I havent really been loving towards her in awhile.. I feel bad for it but I lashed back "Well how can I be when you go back and tell people stuff about me when I'm taking care of you.. and trying.." theres so much to uncover.. and all of it feels awful to me. I wanna cry while writing this.

I'm gonna kind of go into earlier in my life to give more context? I hope I can remember details correctly. That worries me most- Okay. So, at 7 years old my mom lost her leg, at that time my grandma lived with us to actually take care of the house and deal with everything I have to now which I didnt know was so much.. I always remember the two of them getting into arguments, my mom's room was filthy and she'd sneak cigarettes and they'd smell horrible... she'd yell at my grandma but my grandma would somewhat say stuff and make remarks about her using the restroom on herself and I'd be in the middle of it all distressed- i'm so worried of the fact I may just be an awful person. At this point in time I feel so detached from my mom.

My mom continued having health scares, multiple strokes, times where I'd be alone with her and her sugar drops slurring her words and i'd be the one to have to shoot it up and forcing something like penutbutter in her mouth because she wouldn't allow an ambulance to take her. Mornings where its time for my grandma to bring me to school and my mom is fainting and has to be rushed to the hospital.

My grandma died when I was 12, was the only stable parental figure I would say because my mom pretty much had to be treated like a child with the mind of an adult to an extent. I found my grandma dead on her bed, my mom had no access to her room so I had to call 911 because she was sobbing in the living room, the house was a wreck and unclean and I lifted my grandma off the bed like the operative told me to and put her on the carpet and tried to bring her back as instructed, family showed soon after the paramedics and fire department and they took jewelery out of her room and my great aunt brought up how filthy the house was and told me to sweep, my mom stayed in her room sobbing and wouldn't come out.. I couldn't cry about it or didnt feel anything about it, It made me feel terrible at the time because I never got to cry over my grandma, I feel remorse now and terrible for how my grandma was treated by everyone because that situation was so terrible..

I've lived with my mom by myself for almost 4-5 years now, I feed her, change her blankets and clean up her accidents, she feels terrible about having to have me take care of her but I'm fine with it.. its just how I've acted and shes acted the past few months that are scaring me. I have no patience with her, I'll be in the middle of something interesting to me and I'll ask for her to hold on (procrastinating) she'll tell me again because she wants it done right then and I get mad and walk in stomping my feet pissed.. I feel wrong for it- I think? I dont know. the past few months I've realized that I wanna do things outside of the house, I got a job from my family at their buisness after my grandma died and since 12 I've worked 5-6 days a week bussing tables at a restaurant. I also take up honors classes and have a nice friend group I hang out with and my girlfriend of 3 months currently, I've been very rude here lately and I guess lazy. Everyone at work says I'm not as productive as what I once was and I feel exhausted always and they've told me I need to grow up, I keep hearing my mom telling her friends about me not doing certain stuff for her like, forgetting something at the store or procrastinating cleaning the house and that she doesnt know what's gotten into me because my grades started to drop last school year. Her and the family got into a bad arguement while she was in the hospital 2 months ago over my grandma's wedding band which my mom wanted for me, ( I didnt care anything about it because in my mind shes gone. Materials dont matter..) I called my mom childish for bringing it up and yelled at my family for telling my mom the stuff they did. My aunt told me she wished that my mother was dead- and it hurts so bad.. i dont understand.. why everyone is so hateful to eachother and I think I've been trying my hardest, so why doesnt my mom understand that? I came clean to my mom about the fact I feel resentful, and that she can't keep acting like shes the parent and i'm the child but also want me to be the adult paying bills and giving her my weekly earnings because of how fucking poor we are. I've also- lied alot more.. about where I go and who i'm with.. shes very strict about that- she has a tracker on the car, on my phone and tells me where I can and cannot go. Like I wanted to hangout with friends but she wouldn't let me so I told her I was going to the gym and turned off my location and went to hangout with friends- I feel like I have to though to actually have a life... I feel like I'm constantly defensive but at the same time I'm a compulsive liar now- the only person I tell the whole truth of everything is my girlfriend because I dont wanna hurt her.. I dont wanna hurt anyone but thats all I feel like I'm doing.. my mom threw up in my face yesterday that it hurt her when I told her I was beginning to resent her. But I was just trying to be truthful and tell her how I feel. For god sakes I feel spoiled for this but the school had a trip to Europe with EF tours next summer and we had payed 1.5k on it over the past 2 years, and she promised for Christmas to put money on it.. and she never did. We completely stopped paying for it. So I called the company and pulled the money we put in and got 1.4k back.. I asked my mom if I could keep 400$ to spend on whatever I wanted, take my girlfriend out on dates and get my car deep cleaned. She asked why I needed that much and took the full check which pissed me off and I brought up the fact I give her all my money and just wanted a small amount for the money that was already meant to be mine and for a trip I was going on and she could have the rest for bills.. am I a terrible person.. I feel so awful.. I just wanna cry because god... what the fuck do I do?...

To start off, I’m a 22M, and I deal with retroactive jealousy and insecurity. Me and my girlfriend 19F have been together for 6 months, and at the beginning of our relationship, we had a conversation about our worst sexual experiences. I know that was stupid, trust me.
Basically, I have 8 bodies, and she is my 8th. She has 4 bodies, and I’m her 4th. She told me the first guy was big, but it didn’t last long, she didn’t like it, and it was painful. The second guy, she said she faked a lot with. The third guy is the one that has been stressing me out.
She told me he was very huge, like really big, the biggest she ever had. They had sex in a car, and she said it was very painful and a horrible experience for both of them. She said he kept asking if she was okay and everything. She said they both didn’t like it. She was screaming, trying to get away from it, etc. She also said she doesn’t even remember if she came or not. They had sex for about 10 minutes, and she said it was very quick.
Mind you, she said she only had sex with him because at that time she felt like that was all people wanted from her, so she just went along with it. After they did what they did, she went home, sent him a voice message crying and saying she regretted it, then blocked him right after.
Now with me, ever since we started messing around, she cums 4–5 times each round. I was the first person to make her squirt and even pass out from overstimulation during sex. She tells me things like I know how to fuck good, I have the best dick, and she loves it with me.
I’m not going to say I’m the smallest, but I’m definitely not the biggest either. I’m around 6 inches. This has been stressing me out and has been on my mind every day because he had a bigger penis and made her react certain ways.
I’m looking for advice on how to handle retroactive jealousy in a healthy way. How do I stop comparing myself to someone from her past? How do I move on from details I wish I never heard? And how do I work through this without making my girlfriend feel punished for something that happened before me?
Please give me practical advice from anyone who has dealt with something like this before.

Hello, I’m 16 years old and working a full time summer job at a fast food place.

Last night me and my coworkers just got off, ended up finishing late around 3 ish.

All are boys around my age except my GM and basically a shift lead.

The three boys that are my age have known each other since middle school, I had only closed with two and the other(2) came back after leaving around 11 to hang out with the others.

He was just kinda hanging around the store, I didn’t realize before but when he came through the drive though I asked who this was to my coworker and he said to “talk to him” I’ve only now realized he was trying to get me to chat him up.

My coworker(1) the entire night was teasing me about not remembering his(2) name only for me to find out I had never worked with him before and that this was basically his first week.

But the gist of my story is that after we close we’re walking out and after slight small talk I’m getting ready to leave when my coworker(1) asked if I was single, I didn’t think much of it because he was just asking me questions and we were just talking about relationships while closing, I say yes and coworker(2) asks if he can have my number.

I am not close with these boys at all, it’s 3am, there is zero telling what they would do if it said no. I’m not saying they are bad people, given me no reason to think they are but I don’t know them. After slight questioning on who he was(relating back to me finding out it was his first week) I kind of just give it to him.

Everything my coworker(1) did insinuates that they have talked about me before by the way he was playing wing man, but he’s only been here for a week what does this mean. I don’t have any interest in dating, how do I go about this, not do anything? Giving my number doesn’t obligate me to talk to him, but giving it to him did insinuate I had interest, how do I not make this awkward, I work with them both today as well.

Kids have outgrown their toddler and smaller sized boots. They’ve been worn well and trying to figure out how to clear out the old gear. Older ski boots- what do you do with them? Landfill, planters …

Simply put, I went to see a doctor and developed a crush on him. Started having romantic thoughts and looking forward to our appointments. Realized it was bad and found a new doctor. It’s been almost a year and I think of him everyday. I think I know why it happened as I have daddy issues so any male who shows me any caring attention has potential. But how do
I stop thinking about him? I know that I’ve created a person in my mind because I know absolutely nothing about him. I’m just so tired of this filling my headspace. Any suggestions?

Sooo I just broke up with the girl I been with for a year and a half, and literally as soon as that shit ended my cousin’s ex texted me like, “Can you call him for me? We haven’t talked in five days and I’m freaking out. I just wanna know if he’s okay.”
So I asked what happened, and bro… dude was apparently beating the fuck out of her. Like, hitting her so bad she’d pass out. She even had a black eye when I saw her. I told her she needed to stop worrying about him, and she was like, “I have nobody else to talk to.” He basically isolated her from everyone.
So we started talking, and over the next two days we were on the phone for like 24 hours total. We were just talking nonstop, and I’m not gonna lie, that shit kinda got to me. I really started catching feelings for her.
Then two days later she wanted me to come over. This girl is clingy as hell already, and we almost ended up fucking. I dipped because everything started hitting me at once.
Now she wants me to come over again tomorrow, and I actually like her, but this is still my cousin’s ex. My cousin is also the type to crash out if he finds out.
What would y’all do in my situation? Would you leave it alone, stay friends for now, or see where it goes? I need some opinions fr. 🙏

I am a 19 years old girl ... I think I am a lesbian because I get very attractive to girls and my first ever serious crush was on my female history teacher in 6th grade ( a time when I don't even know there is something like LGBTQ) now also I get crushes on girls but as I start interacting with them at some point the relationship becomes platonic and we end up being friends.... Now I mostly wonder what's my actual preferences are can you help me with figuring it out....

hi! My name is Nisa and I would just like to share my story. If you could take a few minutes to read through, I would really appreciate that. Please understand that this post is generally because I am extremely confused with myself, and I am NOT trying to self diagnose. Thank you!

i know i have adhd and ever since i got tested for it and they said I don’t have it, it’s been eating me alive. I also know that a huge factor that contributed to me not being diagnosed with adhd is because my doctor doesn’t even know that there are different types of adhd. My brother got diagnosed with innatentive ADHD a few years back, and he said that the chances of me having it are so high (and that he believes I in fact DO have innatentive adhd) because I relate to his exact same problems. You see, I’ve had high grades all my life. I’ve been a good student in school all my life. Unlike what ADHD is usually seen as, (people - especially boys, with bad grades who are not able to stay still and focused), I do not fit the criteria for that. I also believe that my doctor doesn’t believe I have adhd because im a girl. A girl with high grades, and a girl who is able to stay still. In reality, I can barely focus. Topics may seem too easy for me, and I doze off thinking of alternate universes or scenarios that completely make me forget im in class or learning something important. For some reason I feel affected that I am not properly diagnosed with ADHD because it feeds off of me every day and sometimes it’s so hard for me to focus and stay on track that all I can do is cry and wonder why I can never truly get help. For months I’ve been asking for a change in my doctor. Even though it seems small it affects me so much, because I KNOW that I have adhd, but my own doctor doesn’t believe me, and I just want to be normal for once. I’m so tired of feeling so out of place because I believe I have ADHD, and it’s so tiring.

My boyfriend left me at a hotel again and I'm alone and scared, he has my phone and won't return it i don't know what to do

For context, I live in Georgia in an apartment.

My dad recently passed away and I inherited his house. The mortgage is paid off but there is a HELOC on the house.

I need to know if I should: sell the house?

Should I rent the house?

Should I move out of my apartment into the house?

I am not in the financial situation to refinance the HELOC in my name, but could continue to make the payments if I rented out the house or if I lived in the house.

I currently have a lawyer working on getting the deed transfer into my name.

Thanks for any advice offered.

I have no where to go and my boyfriend is crazy and thinks I'm cheating and all sorts of stuff, it's all stuff he's doing so does anyone want to take me in

Please suggest me whether should i get an iphone 15 pro OR 14 pro max?
Both are available at same price in my region.
(I heard that the 15pro overheat alot in new ios update and battery has also gotten worse)

Hi, I’m 18M and I have this guy about 3 years ago. Things were super messy as I hadn’t slept the entire night cuz my brother was leaving for Russia and I had to stay up in order to say goodbye and just overall spend time with him. His friends had also come over to our place to say goodbye, so yeah, lot’s of people, lots of talking and messiness. When the sun started rising and it was already 7 in the morning I opened tiktok ( at that time there was a trend with “sunset” snap gcs) I wanted to join one with the aim of making new friends and developing my English skills. So I scrolled through many videos still looking for groupchats. Finally I bumped into his video which was about making friends with many people and filling his snapchat map with them. I added him with no hope at all and switch my phone off. The time came to send my brother off so I said my goodbyes and came back home. He had already accepted my request and political asked me to turn my location on which I agreed to.

Weeks go by and we don’t really communicate just sending snaps to each other and once in a decade replying to each other’s snaps. Now I don’t remember whether he asked for my instagram or not but one of us did so I got his instagram then checked his profile and saw his face for the first time. I thought that he was cute nevertheless i’m not the kind of person to fall in love at the first sight so I was like he looks nice. Months had already passed and I ran into a video on tiktok regarding a riot in France ( where he lives ) I texted him and asked what was up with it and if he was alright. Then he started explaining everything in details, I swear he was so well-spoken, so educated, and intelligent that I don’t think I’ve ever met someone like him. He spoke about politics explaining everything in depth which now that I look back I think inspired me to choose my career path. Crazy, right? But I didn’t fall then, it was just beginning. Then some time passed, he posted a picture on instagram with his new haircut ( a buzzcut ) I texted saying that it was a bit unexpected and that I liked it anyway. He told me that he wanted to dye his hair white like Eminem I guess that was where everything began. I haven’t mentioned it but he’s a year or two older than me so I wasn’t really very educated back then as I was 15 and not from Europe. I couldn’t support the conversations well enough to be interesting. So as he inspired to learn more about politics I began my journey and after a year I was already not bad at keeping the conversations going. So once in a while I would text him and we’d chat, and omg I believe if we spoke in real life we’d spend an entire lifetime talking never-endingly about EVERYTHING. I don’t really know why but he never speaks about himself I DON’T know how old he is because we only spend time talking about concepts, science etc. NEVER about emotions or anything of that sort. I feel like his emotional world is blank and empty or maybe he doesn’t open up to people like me… I once asked him why he’d never tell me anything about him, he was like I don’t share because i’m afraid of stalkers and all. I didn’t want to hurt him so I replied by saying that it was fair enough. Anyway after a while I was dwelling on whether he was religious or not so I texted him and straightforwardly asked about it which he denied by saying that he’s irreligious. I went all in that day and turned the conversation towards romantic preferences and he said that he is straight. I do respect him and I believe that he knows what he likes but I still want to confess because it’s always better to die trying than never try at all and I believe that he deserves to know. So now after 2 years of barely talking to each other ( just sending videos to him which he would just react to by hearts ) I THINK i’m annoying or he’s just that kind of person. anyway at the New Year I was already getting ready to confess because I knew that I was tired of all of it and it was time to move on. but I didn’t because I want to meet him irl and spend time with him as friends and I would never want to ruin our so-called online “friendship”.

what would you recommend to do?
should I first meet him irl then confess or just text him right away?
If you need more information feel free to ask. There is so much I didn’t include in this text. Thanks in advance <3

I (M) went on a trip with 3 more of my friends cross our state. my 3 friends ill name them cait, rue and tia. so me and Tia have been friends for around 6-7 years, i know cait through tia and have gotten pretty close to her and i know rue from my school but only recently started to talk to her more cuz tia is friends w her as well. after we reached our trip location we went out to eat lunch, since the place was walking distance we decided not to use any local transport or hired transport since the place we were in wasnt developed yet and had very overpricing transport or non at all. i pull out my phone for navigations but my friend cait says she will instead so i let her seeing no issues with it then she leads us the wrong way and Tia get mad at me for it and of course she doesn't tell me at the moment. then we reach, eat then the bill comes and Cait volunteers again cuz she had some discount and Tia gets mad at me for that too and again she doesn't say anything. then we r back at our place and we leave for the beach. the driver first said that he would wait for 2 hours and drive us to and back for a bit overpriced amount but then after we reach the beach he says he will wait for only 1 hour and expects 40% more money after which pisses everyone off but since we had no other option we comply and head back to our stay where we try to reason with the asshole driver again but he dosent listen and we pay him the extra amount too. rue is agitated and is willing to fight anyone and Cait is trying to reason with the owner and asking for our money back (the driver was recommended by the owner). Tia tells me to calm rue down so i do that while Tia helps Cait but Tia and Cait got mad at me for that too cuz i didnt help Cait get the money back when i was calming rue down and ofc she didnt tell me at the moment either. after i calmed rue down we decided now is better time than ever to smoke weed so we told Tia and Cait that we will be smoking in the living room and since they dont smoke which Tia got mad at me for too and again didnt tell me. after mine and Rue smoke session we steady ourselves for playing some games i planned. now Tia is the planner and initiator of almost everything we do as a group which she is tired of so rest of us, we decided we would plan things too. i had planned games for us to play which me, Cait and rue agree was the most fun part of the trip and Tia didnt participate in the games for reasons we didnt know at the time and thought its cuz of the beach thing then she called the games i planned stupid (and refused to play them at breakfast the next day). after the games we slept and next morning went to eat breakfast in an expensive place, rue couldnt afford it cuz of her parents and her having a fight going on and they didnt send her money, she told this to me while we smoked our cigs outside and then went out to eat something cheap, i understood her and was more than willing to pay for her here but then she didnt want to owe anyone money. i told this to Tia and she got mad at me for it but again didnt tell me. we ate split the bill (got mad again without telling me) and left. i tried to book our cab back home but my friend got a closer one (Tia got mad again, didnt tell me again) so now we r in a cab back home. our ride was around 4 hours long so then i ask my friend Rue if she wanted to smoke while we were midway back to our home and then Tia just let it rip and argued suddenly with me and Rue about how we smoked all the time and how we didnt talk to them at all. (we smoked once during our lunch, once during breakfast and in the house maybe 2-3 times and smoked weed once which i would maybe say would equate to 20-30 minutes max). me and Rue were caught off gaurd cuz Tia never had a problem with us smoking until then and then she started to attack us and say many mean and hurtful things, then Cait joined in too and started screamed things like "Rue atleast has some family issues so its understandable that she is smoking but u dont so why tf r u smoking" after hearing that comment i just shut down and said "i cant handle this conversation" and looked forward, wore my earphones and stayed quite (i was sitting next to the driver seat while they were together sitting at the back). i was going through a breakup but i didnt tell this to my friends cuz it happened 2 days before the trip and then my friend screaming that at me while Tia was saying very hurtful stuff and the breakup just caused me a breakdown and i sat in the front seat crying for rest of the 2 hours which they didnt notice. then we reached our place and went to our separate homes. me and Cait sorted thing out in 2 days after i told her about my breakup and how her screaming that at me was very hurtful and she apologized and we sorted thing out but with Tia, we didnt speak for a month then as Cait's birthday was coming up we decided to try and sort it out. i apologized to Tia about how me and Rue smoking weed caused her discomfort and stress of getting caught in our stay, she apologized to me about how she called my games i planned stupid when she has always preached about showing appreciation of things people plan and has gotten mad at us for not appreciating her plans which we have never called stupid and in fact have complemented her planning multiple times. she then tells me about the things she got mad at me on the trip like navigating and splitting the bill which i was just very confused and baffled by cuz its not something anyone keeps track of and she wants me to apologize about it which i would have for the sake of our friendship but then this is a very common situation i would find myself in often and if i slip up once she will get mad at me again and wont speak with me for a month which i frankly dont need this type of drama plus i specifically have given up many of my 7+ years of friendships for her cuz they treated her wrong, suffered multiple death threats from her multiple ex's, got into a physical fight with her bf's friend and have received 2 death threats from her current boyfriend in which one of them she told him to give me even tho she knows how much her last bf's death threat affected me but then she gets mad at me for not navigating and splitting the bill? i have never used all the things ive sacrificed and suffered for her in an argument with her cuz i know they were my choices but come on, ive done all that and she decides not to talk to me for 1 month (which she blames this on me too even tho she could have reached out too) for that little reason. she wants me to step up for using my calculator and splitting the bill which i didnt think was a big deal since its pretty easy and though whoever the waiter gives the bill to would just naturally do it. i havent apologized to her yet and she has been my best friend for a long time atleast ever since her ner bf showed up but idk its also kind of an ego thing where i dont wanna apologize for something that small and if i do i would always feel monitored whenever i would hang out with her and thats not something i wanna feel. also she was mad at me for saying to Cait that i felt attacked in the car by Tia and defended herself by saying "its tough love not attacking i just want u to smoke less" while she has always said "if some1 felt offended u should always apologize" which is kinda hypocritical imo. if i felt attacked and was crying for 2 hours while a stranger was driving us home then i felt attacked even if her intentions were for us to stop smoking the way she went about it felt very hurtful and offensive but idk i need advice should i just cut this friendship off when i have given so much to it or apologize.

u/Calm_Gur_8276

Please help her, not to do it. She says she'll do it on Monday. Please talk to her and tell her not to do it. She says she is old(she is 38) and doesn't see the future. Please someone try to convince her not to do it.