I want to hear everybody’s crazy sleep paralysis stories. I didn’t really know I had it until I got on TikTok in like 2019 and I’m so thankful that I know now because I’m more understanding of it I’ve gotten to where I can control it a little bit better where I can snap out of it easier, but it is very scary. It is the most terrifying thing and I do not wish it on anybody so let me know your crazy stories.
For those who do music, how do you do it—like singing and, I guess, lessons or whatever, and the production of the music you make? How do you find band members? How do you find studios? How do you create your own? What are the first few steps I should be taking if that’s what I want to do?
Y’all, I need a little advice.
So, I have a stepson. At first, my man wasn’t really taking care of him much because the baby mama lied about some things in the beginning, and I think he honestly just never expected to have a kid. Even with all of that, though, he still tried to take care of him the best he could.
My mother-in-law has always stepped in a lot, and once I started helping raise him too — bathing him, cooking for him, cleaning up after him, getting him dressed, teaching him things, and actually trying to give him structure — I felt like I had a right to step in as a parent figure. The baby mama doesn’t care, so I never understood why it became such a huge issue. But my mother-in-law would constantly run her mouth about me, and she did the same thing to the dad too, so it wasn’t only directed at me.
I honestly think she hated that I was helping him grow up and become more independent because she doesn’t want her kids leaving the nest. She’s threatened me before, talked horribly about me, and put me through a lot. We’re okay now, but I’ll never fully forget the way she treated me.
Now, getting to the point: this child can be very difficult behavior-wise. He hits, slaps, headbutts, yells in people’s faces, takes things, and can be rough with smaller children, including my niece who is almost two. I’m not saying he’s a bad child overall, but he absolutely struggles with behavior and boundaries in certain situations.
Anyways, my wedding is in a few months, and he’s the ring bearer. I’ve already decided that during the ceremony and reception, he’ll be sitting with my mom instead of his grandma because I genuinely think things will go smoother that way.
How do I tell my mother-in-law this in a firm but respectful way without making it sound like I’m saying she can’t handle him? I just know the day will go better with the arrangement we chose.