I’m 25 yo, acquired pe.
3 years relationship, first half went perfectly, perfect control, could go on as I wanted, felt on top of the world.
Then something snaped, and the pe that i had in some instances came back, don’t know if it was the mental aspect of being able and my partner being comfortable with me coming inside, or porn consumption (probably this), or maybe both. But I remember clearly thinking that I felt that my subconscious then knew that it didn’t need to control so it could just come fast, even though now I associate it with porn consumption.
During that time I started “g**ning” and watching very stimulating videos, clenching/hypno/training, just holding the edge of pleasure with little stimulation, that “trained” my brain the be in the almost orgasming state. Of course when doing it in real life that wouldn’t work.m and just worsened the problem.
I also have a problem with porn, tried to stop watching multiple times but always come back to it, feels like a safe place away from the problems of my life idk…
Right now I’m just lost really, don’t feel confortable with myself, with her, or in the whole situation.
This problem dragging for so long just created many more problems and tension in the relationship, as expected.
Already tried creams, sprays, tramadol before to reduce anxiety. And everything seems to take of the flow and spontaneity. Right now looking to starting SSRIs.
Tried a therapist that didn’t click at all and don’t know it looking for other is worth it.
I’m just tired of this situation, tired of letting down my gf, that is more supportive than I expected really.
Right now haven’t watched porn for about 10 days. Been mastrubating with a fleshlight wo porn to train lasting longer. I’m able to control it the fleshlight (for 20 minutes with some pauses), with handjobs, and bj it’s harder but I’m still able to last a few minutes, but as soon as it feels or enters my friend here goes into panic mode and it just feels impossible.
Do you guys have any training methods, meditations that you recommend? Feedback from therapist that are specialized in this field that may do online sessions?
Anything will be welcome
Thanks for reading this