i have a question, if you have true genetic lifelong PE, even if u masturbate with absolutely 0 mental stimulation, i mean out of nowhere you start masturbating randomly and your mental arousal level doesn't even budge at all, will u still finish relatively the same even with mental stimulation?

So I just discovered something and it worked well for me so far. I am not sure why but here it goes. I been having a hard time to sleep at night for last couple months. So I watched some of Dr. Berg videos and I bought 2 bottles of Magnesium Glycinate 240mg and Glycine 2,000mg. 2 Weeks ago I started taking 2 pills of each an hour before sleep for about a week. I slept well through the night but I also last a lot longer with sexual intercourse with my wife. I could last 20 minutes inside her with multiple positions. It happened about 2 times during that 1 week taking the pills. I am not sure why. I was shocked and my wife was too because I normally last 2 minutes.

So I stopped taking the pills for a week to see if this is a case or not. My PE came back. Inlast merely seconds inside her last week. So this week, I tried again with the pills and last night I lasted about 20 minutes again. This is insane.

I don't know why but I like it. I can sleep well and last longer sex. Win win for me.

I am 51 years old, heathy and inngood shap3.

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I have a dumb question.does being circumcised help you last longer? I'm thinking that since there are nerve endings basically cut off .

I think my lifelong PE is mostly psychological but I'm wondering if circumcision would help

Any help is greatly appreciated

I’m 20M and I’m trying to get my sexual health back to normal. I’m struggling with two things.
I used to masturbate with porn pretty frequently, and now I’m worried I may have developed PIED. I can get a full erection, but I also have extremely high sensitivity around my glans and I ejaculate within just a few seconds.
I’ve started cutting out porn and trying to masturbate without it, but I’m not sure what the best way is to retrain my arousal and improve my control.
Has anyone dealt with something similar — especially PIEDn combined with very fast ejaculation/high sensitivity? What actually helped you improve over time?
I’d appreciate advice from people who have genuinely gone through this.

I am not sure if I should be classified as PE. I am a 28M, I used to be able to last around 5-7 min, recently I have gained quite some weight due to anxiety and I notice that there are times that I finish within 2min and I feel anxious during sex since I can't last until my partner comes. Therefore I have started Paroxetine 20mg, the side effect was quite strong the first few days, but it gradually subsided and around day 10, I notice that my penis is kind of "numb" during sex and I can last for almost forever and ejaculation becomes very hard. Long story short, the sex becomes longer, but the feeling becomes worse. Therefore starting today I reduce the dosage to 10mg, and I want to see how it works after a week. Ideally I want longer sex but maintain the feeling of my penis.

I have dealt with PE for the longest time, and cant help but feel insecure, and feeling bad for my partners Ive had because I bust in like 15 seconds. Tried lidocaine spray, not the best, adds about 20 seconds. Im 32.

I was recently prescribed tramadol for pain. I havent used it yet. I was wondering if this works for people who last very short?

Please let me know about your experience using it

That’s the question

Hi I am like many of you all a sufferer of PE. I have had a bad sexual encounter for my first time and have become fully convinced that a girl will not work with me to help this issue so I’ve pretty much completely avoided sex. I’m 23, fit, (some anoint as pretty attractive). Yet I have never had a girlfriend and completely avoid sex and dating because of this fear. Another big thing I rarely see addressed is that I can often last with regular masturbation as long as no porn is involved. I do know that I’m probably making things worse by being so avoidant but I can’t seem to get over the fear and assuming a girl with just be disappointed when it comes time. If anyone has any advice on getting over this as I continue to try to solve this PE issue I would be tremendously grateful. Is there any women out there that truly do not care if you please them in other ways besides penetration? How do I make it clear that I have this issue and not lose the opportunity to finally have a girlfriend?

TL:DR: would love advice on approaching dating despite PE

So my boyfriend 28 M is pe no I don't mean he last 5 minutes I mean typically under a minute especially in certain positions like doggy is typically 4-or 5 thrust's. I'm not upset about this obviously. Honestly I find it kinda hot more than anything else but he mentioned that he has little to no sexual experience and that is very unfamiliar with a woman giving him attention.

I've noticed that he gets very very excited about touching not even about himself getting off just about trying to get me off to the point of me gently taking his hand in mine kissing him slower and telling him it's okay slow down I'm not going anywhere. I love the way he smiles at me when I start scratching his beard.

His whole body is sensitive to touch if I just run my hands up his thighs his body jurks. Are most men with Pe similar in regards to their whole body or a woman touching them?

Hey everyone,

I wanted to share a comprehensive guide I put together after years of dealing with two interconnected sexual dysfunction issues and I would like to know what you think.

I used Gemini Deep Research by accurately describing my issues and asked for a therapy:

• Death Grip Conditioning: Years of masturbating with extreme pressure completely desensitized my glans. Psychogenic erections (getting hard pure from fantasy, eye contact, or mental arousal) were non-existent.
• Premature Ejaculation & Sympathetic Dominance: My nervous system immediately triggered a fight-or-flight response during intimacy. Combined with a permanently tense, hypertonic pelvic floor, even minimal physical or mental stimulation caused my spinal cord to fire the ejaculation reflex almost instantly.

Instead of relying on generic online advice, I used Gemini Deep Research to synthesize clinical data across urology, sexual medicine, neurobiology, and pelvic floor physical therapy.

The goal: A structured, 12-week protocol to recalibrate nerve sensitivity, relax the pelvic floor, and rebuild arousal control.

Phase 1: Reset & Pelvic Unloading (Weeks 1–4)

Remove extreme sensory input to desensitize nerve endings and downregulate the nervous system.

• Porn & Masturbation Audit: Complete porn ban. Zero manual stimulation for the first 2 weeks. From Week 3 onward, maximum 1–2 sessions per week using high-viscosity lubricant and an extremely loose grip (no pressure).
• Pelvic Floor Down-Training: A hypertonic pelvic floor triggers premature ejaculation. Stop doing traditional Kegels—they make it worse. Focus on daily release:
  • Diaphragmatic Breathing & Reverse Kegels: Deep belly inhales to gently expand the pelvic floor outward (as if starting to urinate).
  • Targeted Stretching: Deep squats, Child's Pose, and Happy Baby Pose to release surrounding hip and pelvic musculature.
• Sympathetic Tone Check: Run hourly body scans to unclench your jaw, soften your abdomen, and consciously drop your pelvic floor.

Phase 2: Resensitization & Arousal Control (Weeks 5–8)

Retrain the central nervous system to process arousal without physical pressure and arrest the ejaculation reflex.

• Hands-Free Mental Erections (3x/week): Spend 15 minutes attempting to achieve an erection purely through mental imagery—zero touching allowed. This reactivates dormant neural pathways in the brain.
• Solo Stop-Start Training (1–10 Scale):
  1. Apply ample lubricant and stimulate gently.
  2. Track arousal. At Level 7 (just before the point of no return), freeze all movement.
  3. Exhale deeply over 6 seconds while executing a Reverse Kegel.
  4. Wait for arousal to drop back to Level 4 before resuming.
  5. Repeat 3 times; only ejaculate on the 4th cycle.

Phase 3: Partner Re-Integration (Weeks 9–12)

Utilize progressive Sensate Focus to remove performance anxiety and integrate new physical patterns.

Week	Stage	Action & Focus
Week 9	Level 1	Mutual non-genital touch only. Breasts and genitals strictly off-limits to remove performance pressure.
Week 10	Level 2 & 3	Reintroduce gentle genital contact using warm lubricant. The goal is sensory connection, not erection or orgasm.
Week 11	Level 4	Place the penis gently against the labia without penetration. Focus on slow breathing.
Week 12	Level 5	Slow penetration with zero thrusting. Focus on stillness, deep abdominal breathing, and pelvic relaxation (e.g., side-by-side or partner-on-top positions).

Supporting Factors

• Supplements: L-Citrulline (3–5g daily) to boost nitric oxide production and blood flow. Ashwagandha (300–600mg) to reduce cortisol and dampen sympathetic nervous system activation.
• Thermal & Fascial Therapy: Apply a warm compress to the perineum prior to solo sessions. Roll out the inner thighs (adductors) with a foam roller to release referred tension.

Disclaimer: This guide is a behavioral and physical therapy framework and does not replace medical advice for underlying organic conditions.

Le pregunté a la IA cuáles eran los ejercicios de Kegel y me dijo que primero identificara el músculo, que es el que usamos para detener la orina. Me di cuenta de que siempre que estoy por eyacular lo aprieto por reflejo, no con intención de detener la eyaculación. ¿Ustedes igual lo aprietan al eyacular? ¿Que sienten al momento de eyacular?

Hi

I live i’m Canada and this drug isn’t available here and I want to purchase it. Can anyone recommend me a good website that I can order it have it shipped here without requiring a prescription

Hey, I wanted to share a little backstory.
I am in a relationship for 2,5 years now with my GF. At the beginning of the relationship I had short episode of PE but as the relationship unfolded for the next months I got rid of PE as sex was happening quite regular.

Unfortunately after a year sex frequency drastically dropped from 2-3 a week to 1-2 a month. Because of that over next few months I acquired PE. I was also a bit stressed before sex as I know I had ONLY this one chance so Performance Anxiety was also present.
My girlfriend is working on her libido now but I also want to work on my PE issues. So I recently bought my first Fleshlight and what surprised me that I had EXACTLY the same sensations of PE with fleshlight to the point that I almost came after couple of thrusts. So I had to try the start stop method where I would sometimes wait without any movement for even a minute to ease of the point of no return. The feeling was exactly the same as when having sex with my GF once or twice a month.

So I am thinking to train with fleshlight so when the real thing happens i could last longer, I think that makes sense. What's also worth mentioning is that before fleshlight I tried masturbating but my whole life I've done it dry(without any lube) so I never stimulated my glans, then I tried to focus more on my glans but the feeling wasn't exactly it. That's why I bought fleshlight.

Wanted to ask here does anyone tried something similar?

I'm talking to this girl and her past had a bigger penis both girth and length bigger while I have an average size which is (5.1-5.5 inches in length and 4.5 - 4.7 inches in girth), She finished almost every time with her ex off penetration and didn't have any pain and this was for 3 years, I get it most women can't finish off penetration but I'm talking about this scenario, l know foreplay important as well which I do that. When I asked her if she felt a noticeable difference between me and her ex she said she did we didn't have proper sex yet like I mean not more than a minute. Is it even a good chance I can make her finish off my dick cause her own words she finished almost if not every time through penetration with her ex. Can I even make her finish off penetration? I don’t wanna hear toys or or that other stuff because we both don’t like toys and two I do a lot of foreplay I’m just so worried I can’t make her finish with my average size because maybe she used to bigger and that’s what better for her idk anymore it’s messing with me. Is it possible for me as well to make her finish almost every time as well when we have sex? And even if I do make her finish is the bigger one always going to feel better for her and give her a better orgasm?

I’ve seen people mention that the packaging is really discreet. Is it actually completely unbranded, or is there still some kind of label on the bottle? If your gf happened to see it, would she immediately know what it is?

Also curious about the actual usage. How many sprays do people usually use, and how long do you normally wait before? I’ve seen pretty different answers and don’t want to overdo it the first time.

When masturbating, have you been someone that takes your time and enjoys the experience or is it always just a quickie.

I’ve always lived with parents or partner, it’s always been a quickly pop into the bathroom and get it over as fast as you can but I know that I could last so much longer if I wanted to when masturbating, but I make myself ejaculate quickly to ensure not getting caught.

When it comes to actual partner playing with me or intercourse, it’s over in 10 seconds.

I believe that my masturbation habits have probably been what’s caused my PE and was wondering if anyone else is the same and found a way to reverse ? I read all these forums and they say just to relax and not think about it when having intercourse but we all know that the more you try not to think of it then the more you actually do.

Want to start with my training, just did my first session and have a couple of questions.

• How long should a session take? Best not to cum? Do it daily?
• If I feel PONR coming, I stop stroking. Should I leave my penis inside or take it out? Should I keep my erection or let it go away?
• In the beginning I could go to 1 minute slow strokes, after that it's more like a couple of strokes every round. I'm more resting than stroking actually. Will this become any better? Will it go automaticly the getting used of the sensation or should there be someting to keep my eye on?
• Sitting on my knees with the fleshlight between the mattress and the bed, so I can do real strokes. Is this a good position? Better standing up?

Thx for the feedback and i'll keep you guys posted.

I’m considering trying dapoxetine for premature ejaculation and I’m wondering about what happens after you stop taking it.

For those who have used dapoxetine for a while: when you stopped taking it, did you go back to ejaculating prematurely like before, or did you notice any lasting improvement in your control?

Thanks !

I'm 28 Male in Ontario Canada, I have extreme PE (less than 7 seconds on average).

My penis and rectum are always in pain, a sharp stinging pain, like there's barbed wire running through me.

I can't feel if I'm erect or not, I don't feel any pleasure with stimulation, I only feel pain from it being touched, I can't feel when I ejaculate besides pain in penis and testicles, and I have no orgasm.

So far I've had testicular regular ultrasound, no issues. Duplex ultrasound, cavernosal arteries are shrunk more than normal (right 20cm and left 15cm).

Haven't been diagnosed with peyronies, but I do have a curve and there was some plaque buildup.

I have been doing pelvic floor therapy, around once a month for over a year. No improvements.

I got a prescription for Cialis, it helped me be able to get erections again, but they do not last (still 7s average) and it takes forever to get hard again, even after a 20mg dose.

Where the fuck do I go next guys I'm so lost. I can't see another urologist until December (I had one who's been overseeing me since 2024 but last month he told me there's nothing more he can do). I feel so hopeless, insecure, like I'm about to get fucking castrated. If it's not gonna work I don't want to want it to work.

What else would you guys recommend