r/PrematureEjaculation

looks like i am cured after 11 pills of dapoxetine, i have normal feelings in sex

I've been with my wife a long time and have always been very inconsistent with how long I last in bed. The very rare occasion I can last a while but usually it's a frustratingly short experience well before my wife is finished. In the last few years she has moved away from wanting to provide or receive any foreplay. Our relationship has been quite Rocky since having kids and she basically just wants to get down to business. She'll usually help me get started by using my penis to play with herself until I'm hard enough to penetrate. I keep having this suspicion that if there was more foreplay involved, my penis would have a better chance at ramping up gradually, and then the thrill of PIV wouldn't be such a shock.

Has anyone been in a similar situation where they leapt into penetrative sex without any foreplay at all only to lead to PE? And if things changed to a good amount of foreplay (for her if she wants it, but particularly for him with either a HJ or a BJ) did things improve as far as PE during PIV?

TLDR: struggling with PE, suspect that adding some foreplay will assist. Input?

Just realized alot of men have anterior pelvic tilt including me, and this may explain why I am lean yet my gut protrudes with my rib cage making it seem like I have a belly but I dont.

Also i have a back arch making my butt stick out noticeably.

Based on my reading it may increase your height slightly, and some also said it can help with premature ejaculation.

Just want to get everyone thoughts on this, especially the men that care to expand on this.

And if you do do they tell you to wash it off or no sex?

27 M TLDR: started watching porn when I was 8, have the worst PE of my life (cumming from making out) now as a 27 year old with a new girlfriend who is actually my dream girl.

I’ve always had problems with busting quick.
I was introduced to porn when I was like 8 so I’m pretty sure that has something to do with it.
I lost my virginity when I was 14 and last about 1 second that time- I feel like that makes sense though.
We were very sexually active and often went for may rounds until I could last longer. That was a long time ago, and I can’t be banging 4 times in a row every time.

I’ve had a few long term girlfriends since then and the only time it was never an issue was when I was on Paxil for about a year. I felt like a real man. I came off of it for a reason that I don’t really remember, but now I swear it’s worse than ever. It caused me to hide away and jerk off when I could’ve been having sex (I lived with my now ex girlfriend for a long time)

The fear of shame kept me away. I went down pretty crazy porn holes and was jerking off a ton.

I met a new girl and she’s actually the hottest girl I’ve ever met, and she’s obsessed with me. It’s awesome. The first time we made out I came from kissing her, no touching literally at all. No rubbing- no contact of any sort of our lower halves.

So there’s my issue.
I stopped watching porn a few months ago, but I can’t continue existing as a man who has everything he wants in front of him, but is too scared to even have sex with his dream girl because he doesn’t want to disappoint.

I really don’t want to go back on an SSRI as I don’t really love the idea of being reliant on anything, and I know there are other issues that come along with it.

What the fuck should I do?
I am very desperate.

Thank you in advance.

Last Saturday (27th June), I went to a sexologist for my Premature Ejaculation problem.

I was in a relationship for almost 4.5 years and facing PE from start. I usually last between 30 seconds to one minute maximum.

The sexologist prescribed me Tadalafil 2.5 mg, Parexotine 12.5 mg (SSRI) and a delay spray. I have to take Tadalafil 1 tab every day for one month, Parexotine 1 tab every for first week, 2 tabs every day for rest 3 weeks.

The doctor told me she needs to ascertain the reasons for my PE and if its curable or not which she will do in follow up visit after one month.

I heard that Parexotine (SSRI) delays ejaculation significantly but it also reduces libido.

Due to the Tadalafil, I am having constant random and very hard (sometimes painful) erections throughout the day.

I am also facing severe pain on back side of both of my thighs from last 3-4 days. (I have completed one week course of the medication already)

I also asked the doctor about Kegels/reverse Kegels several times, she kept saying Kegels don’t have any DIRECT benefits for PE. She said Kegels are for Erectile Dysfunction and MAY have INDIRECT benefits for Premature Ejaculation.

I couldn’t get an opportunity to have sex since I started medication (broke up recently), still I masterbated 2 days after I started the medication and couldn’t last more than 2 minutes! (May be the medication takes time to show effects)

My questions are as below. (If anyone has similar experiences before)

1. Does Parexotine (SSRI) really reduces libido? Does it reduce your libido in long term? If my libido is reduced now, will it recover again after I stop medication?

2. Is there any alternative natural remedy/medicine to increase libido/compensate for the reduced libido?

3. Is the pain in my thighs due to side effects of Tadalafil?

4. Should I continue treatment with the doctor including follow ups?

5. Is there any long term solution in medical science without side effects or with least side effects?

I will be thankful your help.

Hi, any of you guys who worked on RK / pelvic floor relaxation, and felt it helped them, could report how did it go?

What were the exercises, how long til you noticed results, and what were the eventual before & after results in terms of lasting?

Any supplements/medicines/others besides the RK/PF relaxation exercises?

Thanks!

I have developed a technique, on how to combat PE. I have seen personal success with it, and would like to share it. I do not know if this will work for you, but there is no harm in trying.

First, sit down, take a few deep breaths, calm yourself, lower your heart rate. I have seen that a faster heart rate, or more restlessness can make you ejaculate quicker. Sit in a dimly lit room, do not use any lube yet, and do not use any porn, do not think of anything dirty, or get yourself aroused prior to this. Ensure that your pelvic floor is relaxed. We sometimes tighten our pelvic floor to increase the quality of our erection. This is the muscle responsible for moving your penis up and down. Move your penis down, until you feel a "peeing" sensation, without actually peeing. Then relax a bit. Start stroking your penis, (make sure you only stroke with a loose grip), just enough that it becomes hard, without tightening your pelvic floor or trying to move your penis up or down. Set a timer for 5 minutes, and make sure your penis stays hard. Don't stroke too much, just stroke enough to actually stay hard, without going soft. After these 5 minutes, you can use lube, very slowly stroke, and see in the stopwatch, how long you last. Count your strokes. (Don't count anything from the previous 5 minutes). You are allowed to stroke fast near climax, but loose grip. You should ideally aim to last for 10 minutes-15 minutes, excluding the prior 5 minutes. Each time you jerk off, try to last longer, without edging. This is crucial, set intervals to stroke, they must not be so long that you start to get soft, in between jerking off, and not be so short that you don't see any improvement. I have been doing once every 30 seconds, and this helped me last longer. You will notice, that after some time of doing this, you will start to last longer and longer, and get soft in between strokes. In this case, it is right to introduce quicker intervals, gradually, while trying to last as long as you were before. For example, in one minute you jerk off every 20 seconds, the next two it's 30, then 20, then next two 30. See how your body responds to that, if you last less, reduce frequency, if you get very close, hold it until you get more used to it. If you are fine with it, you can step it up, and do something like 2 faster minutes, one slower minute. Your goal is to last the same amount, while slowly increasing your stroke per minute count, until you can jerk off like normal, while lasting that long. Make sure you only ejaculate/orgasms once a day. I havent tested once a day personally, but it should work the same. I personally masturbate every other day, and every time I masturbate I use this technique.

Here is a few jot notes.

1. Be in a calm environment, calm yourself down, don't think of anything which makes you stressed, excited, or restless.

2. Don't be aroused, exited, watch porn, or think of anything dirty. Just focus on the moment, don't focus on orgasming, focus on lasting.

3. Relax all of the muscles in your body, relax your pelvic floor. Touch yourself until you get hard, and only touch yourself to keep yourself hard, for 5 minutes.

4. After 5 minutes, you can slowly stroke, with a loose grip. Use intervals, and try to last long. Set a stopwatch, see how long you last, count your strokes. Try to last long, don't edge.

5. Use intervals responsibly, don't keep them too long, or too short, just enough for you to see some real improvements.

6. Don't jerk off too much. Ejaculate responsibly. Once a day max.

Send your progress as a reply, I want to see how this works for other members.

For anyone who’s used Promescent or K-Y delay spray: if you apply it as directed, wait 5–10 minutes, and wipe off any excess, can your partner still taste it or experience any numbness during oral? I’m trying to figure out if it’s practical when oral usually happens before penetration.

Ive had pe since I started having sex, I’m M17 and noticed it 2 years ago with my ex. It got a little bit better after a while with her so i went from like 2 strokes to being able to last 30-60s which worked for me because i just edged and focused more on her. 2 days ago I was with this girl and we got intimate, when I was about to put it in and literally only got 2 strokes in before i felt I was about to come, I pulled out and said that I wanted to switch positions but then I just lost my erection. It was pretty embarrassing but I figured it was because I was low on energy+ that i was hungover. I really like this girl so I don’t wanna embarrass myself like that again. I did some research and it says that it could be because I have stiff hips, it could be other reasons as well but thats what I related to the most. I guess it could also be that I was a little bit nervous. We still text and stuff so it didn’t mess up our situationship. Anyways, I’m wondering if u guys have any suggestions on what to do, i’m looking for a fast temporary solution but also something that fixes it long term.

Hi, I am 29M unmarried Indian man. I have a longtime girlfriend 28F and I am facing PE from the start i guess, I have not last long even 30sec, I used boldcare spray and normal 50mg tablet(bought from medical store directly) before intimacy but nothing works.

Some time ejaculation happens before even penetration.

Most people recommended to do good foreplay before penetration but my point is, I am not able to last in even foreplay.

I visited 1-2 urologist too but that does not works because they keep saying this is natural, you do not have any problem (I think it was bad idea to visit urologist for this issue).

Please recommend me what to do now… which type of doctor i need to visit or what to do to cure this.

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So iam 17f and my husband is almost 24, also i have a son 8 month. So firstly iam so fuc*ing frustrated with his ejaculate cause since day 1 after our wedding he never lest 1 minutes and it's been 1.5 years,,,,iam the only one he had sex with, and he's the one also i had,,,because i married at so young so i didn't understand anything about timing i thought everyone does the same, but i was wrong, everytime after sex i used to feel very unsatisfied, but still then again wanna have sex but he feels tired, my libido is kinda high i guess iam very attractive and pretty and i do exercise every day even tho i have a newborn i maintain myself like nobody can assume i even married, but once I've told him that why the timing is low i want more ,,he said that everyone does the same but i said no I've never orgasm can't you see? Then he started to put fingers inside me then i orgasm but i don't always want to have sex with fingers, i want to penetrate with penis, but he never want to go for a doctor, not even in video call, i told him to so alteast eat healthy and do exercise he not even do that,,, umm all i can say is iam very sad

And is there any long time or permanent cure for that???

So i(23m) have a girlfriend and we are planning to have sex very soon, but i cant really last more than 2 minutes (2 min is like max, i usually finish under 1)
I need some genuine guidance to work on this. Pls help

Just rubbed two drops of AH around the frenelum and shaft, left it on for five minutes then washed it off. Going to wait 4 hours then go have sex. Will report on how things go

Finalmente conseguí recibir Arlo en España haciendo un package forward.
He probado en varias ocasiones el producto tanto con un fleshlight como con situación real con mujer solo manual y estas son mis conclusiones.

Antecedentes: Ya había probado en el pasado AH y PYT. AH me daba un escozor del demonio y dejé de usarlo. PYT me funcionaba pero con resultados muy desiguales, unas veces hacia efecto, otras nada y otras demasiado, y las ultimas veces me salieron enrojecimientos en el glande.

Mi IELT es de < 1 minuto

Mi primera prueba fue con un fleshlight con vibración incluida, seguí las instrucciones 1 única aplicación de tres pasadas dejé pasar dos horas y en situación de pie, estuve +10 minutos sin parar, podía seguir lo que quisiera, tienes la sensación de que controlas la situación, y no sientes un entumecimiento. Pasé a posición tumbado, aquí personalmente me cuesta más el control y pude aguantar 2-3 minutos. Segunda prueba, 1 aplicación de tres pasadas dejo 20 minutos, segunda aplicación de 3 pasadas, espero dos horas. En este caso incluso tumbado podía aguantar todo lo que quería, incluso fue muy difícil conseguir acabar.

Tercera prueba, situación real con mujer solo manual: viendo que dos aplicaciones era demasiado opté por una primera aplicación de 3 pasadas y a los 20 minutos 1 sola pasada. Me permite aguantar de pie todo lo que quiera, y tumbado aguanto + de 5 minutos (es mi peor postura) si cambiase de postura supongo que duraría mas. La sensación de placer obviamente no es del 100% pero podría quedarse en un 80%.

Durante las dos horas de espera se nota una sensación de hormigueo perfectamente soportable.
Ningún tipo de irritación en la piel
No tiene olor fuerte y seca rápido, es fácil de aplicar, no he tenido problemas con el roll-on
Los resultados son más consistentes que PYT
Lo he usado 4 veces y el bote no ha bajado apenas, probablemente haya más de 30 usos por bote.
Yo antes de empezar agarro el pene con la mano para calentar por 1 minuto y activar el producto, lo hacía con PYT y notaba que hormigueaba, también lo hago con Arlo no sé si es necesario.

Me queda pendiente la prueba con sexo real que actualizaré cuando tenga la opción, pero en general me parece que el producto es muy completo, cumple su función y podría llegar a cambiar las reglas del juego en el sexo al menos para mi.

If so what was your routine ? Thanks in advance guys

Starting a thread for Kanna users to share what can be added to go past the 5 minutes-6 minutes.

Which version of Kanna did you find best - Full Spectrum, High Mesembrine, High Mesembrone or some other variant?

Have you added anything else to Kanna that has allowed you to go past the 5-6 minute barrier ?

Been trying the MDG training and on phase 5, and no matter what, none of the training is carrying over to when I'm with my wife.

By myself, it takes several minutes now to get to PONR, and I'm able to stay, back off, start again, for the whole 20 minute session. Breathe, get as close as possible, observe my arousal.

Then with my wife, I went inside and on the same pull out stroke, sensation overload - cum. Less than 5 seconds inside.

I just don't get it. Breathing doesn't help, position doesn't help, being aware of my arousal with her doesn't help. It's just... go inside, 1-3 pumps, then extract but die on the way out.

So sick and tired of this, it's just so embarrassing. We had a good laugh about it since she knows my condition, about the training, etc. But I just want to be able to have sex normally... for more than 5 seconds...

If yes.

Can anyone post a video of themselves doing reverse kegels, please?