r/PrematureEjaculation

Hello, i am a man 26 years old.

The last 2 years i have been having trouble with premature ejaculation.

Been to the doctor and they said i need to do kegels..

Its the only thing they want me to do for help.

I have been doing them but honestly it does not work.

My main problem is when i need to do the work in the bedroom i cum in 6-7 pumps.. i can hold it longer if my wife is on top 5-10 minutes or maybe even longer

While receiving head or handjob i can hold for hours…

Any suggestions of you guys with the same problem and what i could do?

Thanks by advance’

Hey, I'm 16 and have been with my girlfriend for 6 months. We've attempted sex a few times now and I keep running into the same issues - I get hard during foreplay but the moment it gets serious (putting a condom on, actual penetration) my erection disappears completely.

On top of that, the times I have managed to have sex I finish extremely fast, usually under 30 seconds, sometimes as quick as 10 seconds.

Last night I couldn't get hard at all for about 30 minutes despite her being completely supportive and understanding. I'v ed breathing

techniques, focusing on her, notmonitoring myself, edging practice during the week, reducing sensitivity beforehand - nothing seems to work in

the moment.

I know it's performance anxiety because I get hard fine when there's no pressure. But knowing that hasn't helped me fix it.

Has anyone actually gotten through this? What actually worked for you? I'm 18 with no physical issues, just stuck in an anxiety loop that's getting worse with each experience rather than better.

Hello brothers,

​Need urgent advice from anyone with a similar experience.

​Background: 10 years of regular masturbation. Currently on a 5-month strict streak.

​Current Status: Absolutely NO performance anxiety. Zero sensitivity issues, and excellent pelvic control (NO urine leakage at all). I can easily get a rock-hard erection when alone, but when I am with my girlfriend, I struggle to get a full erection.

​The Problem: The exact moment I try to insert into the vagina, I instantly ejaculate/discharge.

​How to fix this?

​Please share your experiences. Thank you!

Been wondering what most people actually do with delay sprays after they absorb. Some instructions say to wash it off before sex, other people say leaving it on works better. I’ve tried both and honestly they feel pretty different.

When I leave it on, the effect usually feels stronger and lasts longer, but sometimes it also feels a little “heavier” or too numb depending on the product. When I wash it off after waiting, the experience feels more natural and balanced, but maybe slightly weaker too.

I’m also curious about how these sprays actually work. Are they mainly affecting the skin surface or the nerves underneath once absorbed? Because if most of the effect is already absorbed into the skin after 15–30 mins, then washing shouldn’t change much right? Or does leftover residue still contribute a lot to the numbing effect?

Hi I’ve deal with PE my whole life, I’ve got all the traumas related to PE, bad virginity loss at 14, balls surgery as a young kid, prOn addiction and more.
I’ve tried a bunch of things, and realized my PE is mainly mental. I can masturbate solo and last as long as I want, but as soon as I’m with a partner or if I see any pROn or triggering images my pelvic floor tenses directly, my vison shorten and I’m in my head, I can’t last and cum straight away.
I’ve been willing to fix this my whole life but never really put work into it seriously. So now I’v seen a sexe therapist, did hypnosis, acupuncture, reverse kegels, breathing techniques… but seems that my mind still can’t rewire and fix this. I’m kind of tired of this and really need to see progress. I’m married and happy with my wife but sexe really is a struggle.
Especially knowing the fact that when we met we fucked so much that my PE went away and we had amazing sex for month. But we were doing it very often, and with the time, having kids now, not so much time for intimacy, PE came back years ago. But I won’t finish the year like this, I want to fix this so bad. If anybody can help I’d be really grateful. Thks 🙏

so its been a year trying different mostly all the combination of pills available in market. ive used viagra, cialis and even ssris like clomipramine, paroxetine. Trust me guys, the combination which im gonna tell you right now its gonna make your girl crazy for you btw ive discovered trying everything so its legit.

Combination -

. 1pill Tadapox ( tadalafil 20 mg + Dapoxetine 60 ).
. numbing spray, it can be of good brand.
. delay climax condoms, not necessary but good for folks with high sensitive head.
. and last one is optional which is one shot of vodka, cauze sometimes with pills you cant feel excited or aroused. so one shot will make you work on that things.

This combination is for on demand, take the pill 1-2 hours before, numbing spray and vodka shot 5-10 mins before.

This will work for every guy who tried different pills but didn't get satisfaction from it. this will work like magic, you will get total control on your ejaculation.
minimum time you will get is half an hour, for me it becomes impossible for me to cum.

if you are living in country where it is difficult to find tadapox, you will definitely get this combination of tadalafil and Dapoxetine in another brand name pills or you can take them separately.

Did somebody try Relatio app ? Wonder if it helps for Lasting longer.....

I’ve edited this with AI because English isn’t my first language.

Hey, I’m 21 and I’ve had severe premature ejaculation (PE) for as long as I can remember. I don’t have issues with erections — they’re normal and under control. But I’m dealing with something that feels really unusual and confusing. Whenever I become anxious, I start feeling stimulation in my penis, and sometimes I end up ejaculating — including orgasm and semen release — without even touching myself.

Thinking about it makes me even more anxious, and it feels like a cycle I can’t escape. I honestly don’t know what to do. I feel scared and embarrassed about it, and I don’t have the courage to talk to my parents or anyone else about it.

Can someone help me escaping this probelm

So last night when I was reading through this forum, I came across a comment talking about reverse kegels. It explained that I had to really clench my glutes and twist my feet outwards if I were standing up. I tried this while touching myself and magically could feel my pelvic floor not be so tensed up. It felt like I’d be able to last much longer. Before, every tiny bit of stimulus caused me to really tighten up which resulted in finishing in less than 10s with PIV sex, but maybe if I try this I’ll last longer.

Does anyone have any tips for how to do this while having sex? How to get a better feel for controlling both sides of the kegels.
I’ll have my partner over tonight to give it a try with oral and sex.

Longtime PE.. was married for a decade so it was easier to manage with dapoxetine, sometimes condoms etc , still had issues from time to time though.
Now being free again and dating it’s stressing the hell out of me so I went to the doc and asked him about paroxetine as I’d read some good things but after reading more deeply found a lot of negative stuff as well..

Are there people using it for a long time with success? I was thinking perhaps trying it during this period of performance stress

If you have often a premeture ejeculation, try to stimulate only the frenulum. You can edge for hours. Its fun to do it yourself or let your partner do it. It can be done by your partners tongue or fingers. When you use only one finger on the frenulum and I mean only one and dont touch anithing else you could start leaking precum and last for a very long time. Enjoy!

While spending time on this sub i’ve read everything and it’s opposite :

Some people suggest completely stopping porn and masturbation, to avoid « fake » arousal (it can apparently help with ED, which i get) and all the bad things that porn does to your brain, and that’s a fact, it fucks up your brain chemistry.

And some are saying that it’s not good for PE, because then you get disensitized and when you actually have sex your arousal curve spikes instantly. Apparently it’s even a thing for PE fetishists, who train themselves to develop PE (yes), and a part of this training includes completely stopping porn.

Can we agree on what’s the way to do it ? To me porn is ultimately stopping that should not be a part of anyone’s life, and it can cause ED, but it seems to help some people in the case of training to cure PE, so idk.

What are your thoughts on this ?

I (28m) have started dealing with PE. It started the day after my birthday, at the beginning of February. Since then I havent been able to last longer than 1 minute - before this, I could last 10 - 20 minutes.

I am grateful to have a partner who is understanding and patient but I miss enjoying sex. I’ve learnt about reverse kegels and have been doing them everyday to relax my pelvic floor since the beginning of May; it has been 2 weeks but nothing has changed.

My partner believes I’ve been stressing myself out since the first time it happened and think about it has affected my performance. I think it might be due to the fact that I’ve been masturbating almost everyday since I was 14.

I am trying not to overly stress myself about my situation because I feel that it can be fixed. But I would like to hear from other men who have been through what I am going through.

What other solutions can I try that don’t involve medication?

Those of you who seen success with reverse kegels, how long did it take for you to get back to normal?

I have been with my wife for 10+ years. Married for 6 of those. Through that span we have had a few children and historically had a great sex life. The past year or so I have been struggling heavily with PE. Not like it’s been less time over time. Like one day it just happened and it’s happened since. I used to be able to last long enough to make her O from PIV and have had her ask if I’m close signaling she’s ready to be done. However for the past year or so I feel myself on the edge before I even get a chance to start. I’ve tried everything I can think of. Wearing a condom (not enjoyable for either of us). Ejaculating before we start. The old “Sweaty socks” thoughts (Imaging the grossest thing you can think of while still being aroused to delay the feeling and sensation). Even cutting back masturbation, eventually cutting it all together. Now if I do, I drag it out as long as I can without watching porn. Through this time I’ve had my wife’s support, but last night was different.

We started our normal way, gave her a foreplay O and she laid back ready for me. I got started and then immediately became overwhelmed and had to release. As I pulled out (Literally a few pumps) she started to laugh. I felt humiliated. She tried to go back on it and say she was laughing at my reaction more so than the fact I could barely slide it in before sending myself over the edge but it didn’t stick. And honestly I don’t blame her for laughing, just stung.

I’m writing to both men and women. To the men, I’m asking if there are any techniques that I haven’t tried that have worked for you in the past without clinical or over the counter products. And to the women who have had a partner who delt with this in the past. In your experience how you felt about it.

After everything settled down she did admit that her “Urges” aren’t the same knowing that she will get all worked up just to be taken care of a way she can do herself. I appreciated her honesty but my confidence is shot now.

1-10 sensitivity scale.

When you hit 7 to 8 sensitivity scale.

Immediately stop pounding, deep breath inhale while your stomach is expanding like a balloon while doing reverse kegel.

Inhale + balloon stomach expanding + reverse kegel.

In 10-30 seconds, you will go back to 1-2 sensitivity scale.

I’ve quite literally grown to think there is no solution. I have suffered from PE my entire life. If it’s oral, I last 2 mins max unless I’m drunk. The moment sexual intercourse starts I either cum immediately or after 2-3 pumps. When I was like 17-18 is when I got my first gf, she would literally sit in my lap and I’d cum from the pressure. I am 26 years old. When I was younger I didn’t care much because my refractory period was almost immediate, but now I honestly don’t know for long it takes but it’s long enough for my partner to believe im not into them because I can’t get it up. Which, if I actually were to…I still would cum immediately again.

My solution has been to use honey packs so after I could just stay up but I finally went and sought help and my doctor prescribed me escritalopram 10 mg which after a week I could see it was almost impossible to finish. That said, my last partner left thinking I wasn’t attracted to her. Fast forward, 2-3 months of taking it, finally having sex again with someone else and what do you know. I’m back to normal despite taking it.

I don’t know what to do, I’m kinda over it and just given up. I don’t want a heavier dose nor do i wanna keep having to take honey packs I just don’t understand and out of options. I don’t think It’s my fear or anxiety of messing up because when I have a honey pack I don’t have any anxiety or anything and it still happens and I’m just confident because I know the honey pack is gonna bring me back up. I’m just hyper sensitive downstairs and I don’t get why.

How long do y'all last on round 2 ??

Around a year ago I started to be sexually active with my ex and I had issues where I would cum really fast. There would be times where I came while we made out and other times where I came in under a minute from handjobs or sex. I was able to get it decently under control after a few of those encounters and was able to have sex for about 7+ minutes. We broke up in September and I picked up poor masturbation habits again and now I’m back with a girl and have had similar issues again. I’ve started to try and slow down my stroking, not using porn, and making sure that I’m fully hard while masturbating. I’ve been able to make out and have her make me cum, though quickly usually, and there has been times where I’ve came while making out.

Any other tips I should be using? Thanks for the help

I’ve been debating whether I have PE or not. I just don’t understand anymore because my sexual experiences are always so different.
The first time I had sex, I could get hard but couldn’t orgasm through penetration. It felt like there was no sensation in my penis. Weirdly enough, I could stay hard back then. I assume this was due to excitement and maybe a bit of stress.

Now I’m with a girl who is perhaps more experienced, and I stopped watching porn about 10 months ago. I tend to climax within 20–30 good strokes. I’ve tried going slowly, going hard, and relaxing my stomach and all the muscles below, but I still sometimes finish quickly. Other times, I can last several minutes while staying 100% hard. And strangely, I often can’t get fully hard for a second round even though I’m still horny, although sometimes I can.

It’s frustrating.

So in summary, most of the time I climax quickly, but sometimes I can last more than a few minutes.
Now I’m trying to figure out how to deal with this. I suspect it might be related to excessive masturbation when I was younger. From a young age until I was 22, I masturbated multiple times a day. On free days, it wasn’t unusual to do it up to 7 times per day in quick sessions just to finish.

I have a GP appointment tomorrow, so I’ll ask them the same question (not sure what to expect, honestly). I was curious what you think about this.