I’ll try keep this brief. MIL went on sick leave from work back in mid 2025 for mental health, her husbands health declining meant he had to give up work so we kind of understood it’s impacted her mental health as money worries etc would. Fast forward to January my MIL decided to let everyone know she is separating from my FIL, my fiancé and I suspected she was drinking heavily around Xmas time but very much in denial, she keeps bringing up the reason for separation being he’s been a terrible husband and father when kids were young (why now the kids are 30+)? He can’t drive because of health reasons so he’s no longer useful to her plus he can’t work.
Family intervention happened in Feb, sat her down about her drinking completely in denial until she was caught drinking from a bush in the garden, suspect 4/5 bottles of wine a day. She agreed to help, uk help is shocking she gets 1 “rehab” appointment a month if you can call it that, we got her back to work for 2 weeks and then she stopped again claiming all sorts of ailments which was in my opinion excuses, she has now lost her job.
Once a daunting loving mother and grandmother now doesn’t really see her kids or grandkids, spends all day in bed getting wine delivered and asks to borrow money off my fiance which I’ve told him not to do as I genuinely will call off our wedding as I’m saving hard for him to use his savings to enable her.
What do I even do here? Does my fiance cut her off until she gets help? Do we try get her sectioned as I imagine now she’s lost her job the wheels are really going to come off here. FIL still living with her as they try and proceed with the separation assets need sorted, apparently she’s really nasty to him.
It feels like since January it’s gone from 10/20mph to 100mph, what’s meant to be a lovely time for me and her son planning our wedding I’m genuinely dreading it. Any advice would be great, any UK help available please let me know as I’m finding it hard to get straight answers.
Tia.