Hi Reddit
My (17f) mother (45f) has recently started taking me to a pediatric weight loss specialist, as I am overweight. My first appointment with said doctor was a few months ago. My mother had mentioned this weight loss clinic to me multiple times, and kept pushing me to go until I finally caved and said yes. I am still not a fan of going, I feel embarrassed that I have to be there in the first place. I know it has helped me and will continue to help me, but it is hard to admit that I am overweight and need help.
I got diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder with this doctor, but I haven't seen this doctor a lot. I also see a psychiatrist for medication management as well as a family therapist. My mom always speaks over me and denies, gaslights, etc. to make herself look like a good mom and me a mentally unwell child. It sucks.
My mother is also overweight.
She makes comments about my body all the time and it makes me insecure and sad, especially because she's also fat.
My mother unfortunately teaches at my high school. Sometimes it's nice, but it sucks most of the time. I think this has been the suckiest instance of her working at my school.
Prom was this past weekend, and my mother chaperoned. I went with my boyfriend of 2 and 1/2 years. He knows all about my issues and has been supportive. He and I went out to dinner prior to prom. After a little while of being at prom, I got a plate with a handful of chips and a few pretzel bites. Literally nothing crazy. My mother saw this and said "Do you really think you need more food right now? Are you actually hungry? Or just stress eating like normal?". I was genuinely taken aback and just walked away without responding. Some of my friends were nearby so I just walked over to them, but she followed me, attempting to apologize even though I did not want to speak to her.
After trying to see my friends, I walked farther away from everyone and sat down with my boyfriend. I was super upset at that point and started to cry. Long story short, we left only about and hour and a half into prom.
I texted my mom to inform her that I had left and when she asked why I said "your comment really hurt my feelings" and said "I hope you find something fun to do tonight". like okay.
I spoke to her again the next day about how upset I was and that she was the reason I left prom. She said it's not her fault, and I shouldn't have left if I'm this upset about it. I think it is her fault, because I wouldn't have left early had she not said that.
I'm honestly sick and tired of her saying mean things to me all the time because I feel like not even my own mom loves me because of her own insecurities that she needs to work on. She is in therapy, so she has the resources to. She never listens to me and gets me in trouble if I say something that really pisses her off.
WIBA for telling her to stop projecting her insecurities on me? or should I just not say anything so I don't get in trouble?