paediatrician called CPS because husband called for mental health support
As title describes.
My husband called our paediatrician for a referral for postpartum anxiety & depression for both himself and I. I already am seeing someone for medication, and I am on a waitlist for therapy through my OBGYN. My husband thought he could fast track the process without my consent or involvement which I am quite annoyed about- given this now feels like an extreme and hostile escalation.
Without seeing our child or speaking to me, and with the insistence from my husband via the phone call that I’m a good mother and our child is in no danger, our pediatrician called CPS.
She scheduled an emergency appointment with us the following day which we attended with our baby. Upon seeing both of us and our baby who is doing very well, is healthy, smiley and robust - meeting her milestones and growing very well, she said she wouldn’t have called CPS had we met with her in person, instead of calling.
I’m at a loss for words.
We have been interviewed by CPS already, and given our character references- the lady was lovely and assured us she didn’t think this was going to go anywhere and we clearly have a loving home.
I feel deeply betrayed and humiliated. I wasn’t part of this conversation to the pediatrician, I am skeptical of my husband’s retelling of it being so mild. I am very angry at my husband.
UPDATE:
I can see how this happened now, I appreciate everyone’s thoughts- it’s helped me calm down. I’m no longer angry at my husband, we have both been quite distraught over this experience and are trying to hold space and empathy for each other. We recently moved interstate for work, we have barely made new friends and we have no family here - the newborn phase has been difficult to say the least. Our personal context aside, I will stay with our paediatrician for the next few appointments. We will otherwise be looking for a new paediatrician who we can build a more trusting and secure relationship with. I ideally want a long term care team for our family and frankly I’d like my family to be able to seek mental health support without stigma or fear of consequences, if there is no genuine risk to anyone’s safety.