Am I doing enough?
I have 3 kids, a 3 year old girl and my 7 month old twin boys. We moved while I was pregnant a year ago and I’m finally starting to get my house fully functional and not chaotic. I really struggled with unpacking/cleaning/not having random crap everywhere while pregnant/postpartum trying to navigate my new home. This was difficult for me as an adult with a lot of transition, so I know it was hard for my daughter. She is a very strong willed girl and was used to 100% of my attention. I feel like I can never balance everyone/thing right. If I give the majority of my attention to housework for the day, I feel like I’m neglecting the kids. If I give my majority of my attention to my daughter by playing with her, I feel the housework stacking up and feel like I should have spent more time on the twins. The twins are such happy easy go babies, so I don’t really know how much I should be spending time on their level. My daughter was a clingy baby, and I worked until she was 10 months old. My sons spend 90% of their awake time in the playpen playing. They are happy so I feel like I should leave them be, but I feel like they aren’t getting enough attention. They are just so different from my daughter I don’t know what I’m doing I guess. The housework is starting to get more manageable, and my daughter will start school soon so I’ll have more time for my twins. Any advice on how to do better for my boys? I don’t know I just feel like no one is getting enough, but it feels like I’m doing a lot. Is it just this season of life with 3, 3 and under?