2 months on E at nearly 40 — struggling to present femme while waiting for my body to catch up. Is this normal?
I’ve been on estrogen for two months now, and I turn 40 next year. I wanted to reach out because I’m really struggling with something and hoping others can relate.
Right now I’m in this in-between phase where I want to wear cute, feminine clothing and present fully as myself, but I’m holding back until I feel more comfortable in my body. I’m waiting for E to do more of its work, and honestly I know I need a slimmer silhouette before I’ll feel confident stepping out that way.
Is that a common experience? Feeling like you want to wait before fully presenting?
I know patience is a virtue (everyone keeps telling me, lol), and I have seen some changes already that genuinely make me happy. But 3 to 5+ years feels like such a long road, especially starting this journey at almost 40. There’s so much to learn, so much to navigate, and some days the in-between feels really heavy.
Any advice or encouragement from those of you who’ve been here? Especially from late starters, how did you cope with the waiting? Did you ease into presenting gradually, or did you dive in?
Thank you for being such an amazing community. 💗