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16 months on HRT and feeling fab at just shy of 52
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16 months on HRT and feeling fab at just shy of 52

Sometimes I forget that what I look like on the outside is now matching my inside.
It’s such a wonderful surprise when I see myself in a photo.

u/JessicaAwake — 5 hours ago
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Question about progesterone dose

Im probably in the wrong place but I hear AskTransgender isnt good for this either. I just wanna see how progesterone affected people, mostly its side-effects as ive noticed I somewhat consistently get headaches and especially so if I take a higher dose to fix a separate issue

u/IndependentHelp2774 — 5 hours ago
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10 years post-op today! SRS and BA

On this day in 2016, I received a beautiful vagina and beautifully bigger breasts. Back then, 10 years ago, I was trying to deal with a divorce, build new relationships with my kids, and navigate a new career. Now I'm mostly retired, have a husband who loves me as the woman and wife and mom I am. We bought a home together recently and I'm gardening, teaching yoga, and learning a new language. For those of you early in the process, please know that there is a light at the other end of the tunnel -- blow up your life, get unstuck, do what you need to do.

u/Bridget_0413 — 12 hours ago
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Deadname, are they really every finally dead

I have been out and transitioning for 3 years now, on GAHT , on a LONG waiting list for my affirmation procedure that I am so ready for and really hoping that I will get before I expire but after I went through my court procedure and had my name and gender both legally changed I have gone and gotten my drivers license, insurance , banking , then I went to do my medical records and some of it was not a problem but OMG and I went to social security and they changed my name but they would not change my gender identity because it was right after this administration signed that ‘Executive Order’ and also I can’t renew my passport so how long and what advice do you have to share in regards to actually making it a truly DEADNAME’ and not a “deadname’ ? Even my phone keeps popping up with that and dysphoria shows its ugly head and I just want to try to crush it, any suggestions?🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️

u/ImStacie — 10 hours ago
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My first experience since transition…with a trans guy!

We don’t have any photos together (yet) but this is me after a lovely few days exploring my sexuality with him.

It’s been years since I’ve been with anyone, and was never with a man before. And it was pure serendipity that my first time was with a trans guy.

Oh. My. God.

Sex is like night and day different

It was fantastic before, but to be able to just fully relax into who you are and be present and not performative. Wow.

u/OftenMe — 14 hours ago
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Approaching 30 has never made me feel more alive

I am so ready to take on the next steps in my life

u/Digital-Toaster — 22 hours ago
▲ 68 r/TransLater+1 crossposts

Absolutely buzzing

Recently got back into Reddit and so pleased I connected this last week. Feeling super positive about my transition now and I’ve gained lots of strength from the posts I’ve been reading. Thankyou so much. Please remember you’re never alone wherever you are 🙏

u/lily_ts — 17 hours ago
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Never too late to be happy

(3 years HRT) 54 years and a life to live so I am living it true to myself.

u/Rixy_pnw — 22 hours ago
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For my fellow older trans gals: How do you deal with the dysphoria surrounding not having kids (but wanting them now)?

For some context, I am a trans lesbian who's been on HRT for nearly 3 years.

I spent most of my life, 38 years, being so utterly on the fence about wanting kids that it was a constant struggle with the long term partners I had. So I never ended up getting married or having children.

Then, I came out and started HRT. I knew almost right away that I really did want kids and I did want a spouse/coparent. Then I added prog to the mix and now I've got baby crazy on a regular basis. I've been like this for a couple of years now.

I could sit here and talk about how "I know it's not too late" and "age isn't everything" but those mantras really don't help me when I'm as down as I am right now. I went to the beach today and while I saw tons of gorgeous women (which already triggered my dysphoria a bit), there was also a big family gathering happening and there were a bunch of kids running around playing.

I almost cried a couple of times. I had to contain myself before I made an embarrassing scene about my inability to both bear and give children. I had chosen not to save any genetic material before starting HRT, being so certain that I'd be alright with going off of it later in order to start sperm production again. But now that I'm seriously considering it... I don't want to take the risks of letting testosterone take over my body again. I like how I am now. I don't want anything to change and I think I'm ready to accept that I maybe made a mistake here. I understand that I'm not entirely sterile and that an opportunity to have biological kids might still be on the table... But this change in my paradigm has been... Distressing.

At this point I'm probably looking at adoption or being a step-parent. Neither of these options are bad, to be clear. I'd still be elated to be someone's parent. It's just kinda... I dunno... Crushing? That I made a decision back at the start when I thought I knew what I'd be alright with. I don't think I made the wrong decision, but I do wish I'd more seriously considered saving sperm before starting HRT. I was given plenty of opportunities to do so and I took none of them. I guess these things just happen. 🤷‍♀️

I'm really in my feelings right now. I'm extremely sad and looking for someone to talk to about all this, but unfortunately I don't know many late-in-life trans women in my situation. Im really sad and I don't know what to do to help alleviate this level of dysphoria, especially when it gets mixed in with my bottom dysphoria and phantom vagina/uterus. It's driving me crazy.

Is this an "Ice Cream and bad TV" treatment, or a "here's a book on the subject" treatment, or maybe just a "journal about it and get your feelings out" kind of thing? I'd love to hear from y'all.

ETA: This already got downvoted and I don't know why... Kind of upsetting, =/

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u/Petrychorr — 16 hours ago
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I think the time has finally come to come out… (mtf 39, pre HRT)

Ok, so here it is, I finally feel like the coming out moment to my wife is going to happen imminently.

But I’ve put it off so, so many times that it just not happened and for so many reasons. All of which have been to ‘protect’ the ones I love the most, my wife and kids. But I can’t go on much longer as I am in limbo, knowing I’m actually a woman and not feeling like being able to do anything about it.

But, I feel calm about the prospect. I’m still shit scared of losing her and my family etc and messing up their lives. I can recover from it mentally, but them well that’s the hard part of it I guess.

I don’t know when it’s happening, or how, maybe a letter. The only other way is I just blurt out ‘oh I’m trans!’ And I don’t think that will go down too well!

So, wish me luck. Fingers crossed I actually do it this time.

Also, a picture of me that’s in better lighting and having a better make up day than the one I put up before. Ps, ignore that bit of chest hair showing through, I can’t get rid without raising too many alarm bells. 😔

R 💋

EDIT: Wow, I wasn’t expecting this response. Thank you all so much for the incredibly kind words and support. I’m reading every comment, but there are so many now that I may not be able to reply straight away. I’ll do my best to respond properly when I can. ❤️

u/candeloro1 — 1 day ago
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went swimming in trunks for the first time yesterday. happy sunday friends

u/bugtran — 17 hours ago