u/Corot7bb

My first love (24m) lasted about four years until I discovered the inevitable, he was a p*rn addict and also texting other women.

I just found out my current boyfriend of now 8 months (29m) is using Ai chat bots, watching cheating p*rn and is on Ashley Madison, but always says he’s a nice guy and that he loves me. I just truly in my heart don’t think a lot of men even value love at all and it sucks. I know I’ve only been in two relationships and people can blame me for “picking bad ones” but it’s hard to believe that there’s a good guy out there at the moment and maybe I’m just hurt but I don’t want to keep going through this. It’s so embarrassing to say “I love you” to someone who’s doing all this behind your back, it just feels like a joke.

Anyway, Trader Joe’s pancakes + fresh fruit. 🫐🍓💓

A few days ago, my boyfriend and I had a heated argument because he wants me to go on Wegovy. I don’t feel that I’m significantly overweight, and I already work a physically demanding job. His main concern is that I tend to snack when I’m at his place. However, I’ve already made changes to address that by not keeping snacks at home, since I know it’s something I struggle with.

During the argument, I explained that I’ve been actively working on improving my habits, so I don’t believe medication is necessary. He responded by pointing out that I’ve gained about 10 pounds since we started dating and compared my behavior to people on “My 600-lb Life,” which I found hurtful and hypocritical especially considering he eats out multiple times a day and drinks soda on the regular.

He also made comments suggesting that I’m on a path to becoming unhealthy, asking me if I want to become a “fat blob,” which was very upsetting. Before our relationship, I had a more consistent routine with exercise and healthier eating, but I’ve admittedly picked up some of his habits over time. (I’m not trying to place the blame on him at all)

But what hurt the most was when he said that I’m not typically his type and that he initially pursued me because he was feeling insecure about his own weight at the time and that he was just desperate. Although he has apologized and said he should have communicated his concerns differently and that he fell in love with my personality before my physical appearance, I’m still feeling deeply hurt and unsure how to process everything that was said.