WIBTA if I wanted my boyfriend to stop being friends with a cheater?
I (20f) and my bf (25m) have been together for about 6 months. We have a great relationship and there is nothing to complain or comment on.
My boyfriend has this friend (John). John is in his early 30’s and has a girlfriend (Jane) around the same age. Now Jane and I have absolutely no relationship. We have met once and we’re not compatible as friends. My boyfriend, (Adam) has been friends with John for a few years.
Here’s where we get to the issue. John and Jane have a toxic on and off relationship. Whenever they are off, John is almost always with another girl until him and Jane get back together. I know John is disloyal to Jane. I can’t speak on whether or not Jane is. I have become decent friends with John recently, but it rubs me wrong that he constantly cheats on his partner.
I don’t think I’m comfortable with my boyfriend continuing to be friends with John because of this. I’ve yet to express this to my boyfriend as I’m not sure if my feelings are valid or not. I’m worried that John’s behavior will rub off on Adam and he will grow to be disloyal to me. (my ex cheated so i’m very sensitive to this)
Adam never covered or lied to Jane for John or defended his actions, he always stays neutral which is why im at a loss
Any help is appreciated. thank you
Edit: I wanted to add that John sleeps with other women while their relationship is ON as well. Not just off.