It gets better!
I told my parents I was taking off the hijab a month ago, and at the beginning, it was definitely stressful trying to stand my ground while also trying to coexist with them peacefully . But we’re making progress! I didn’t wear the hijab for my graduation, and my parents still felt comfortable enough to share my grad pics with relatives! I’m relieved that their pride in me overshadows their qualms about my personal appearance. They have pretty much stopped bothering me about wearing my hijab. I’m sure gatherings with other Muslims will be a different story, but in my day to day life I’m basically free as a bird! No one I know has said anything negative to me about it btw.
Don’t overthink this thing! If you can hold on and stand your ground, you’ll win. If you’ve been deliberating for a while, don’t wait any longer, just do it! I promise it’ll be worth it.