r/Without_The_Hijab

I finally ripped the bandaid off and went to my university placement without hijab for the first time. I had just gotten my hair straightened at the salon and had a trim, and honestly, I loved having it off. I felt so confident, free and comfortable, and I really don’t want to go back to wearing it. It was the first time really existing to people without my hijab on..but I had my head held high since I first started with hijab.

But now I’m panicking about what will happen when my hair goes back to its natural curly state. I never really understood my hair before, but after speaking to a stylist, I realised that it’s actually fine and low-density 4B hair. I don’t have an issue with my curls themselves; it’s just that because my hair is naturally fine and sparse, everything is more obvious. It gets matted and frizzy, looks thin, and the shrinkage is insane. And I genuinely have no clue on how to style make myself look put together, I have watched some tutorials but these women have thickness and length etc .

I’ve been in denial about this for a long time and constantly wish I had more volume, length and density. I’m scared that once my hair reverts, I’ll lose the confidence I felt and start questioning whether taking my hijab off was a mistake. I genuinely felt free and comfortable without it, and I don’t want to go back to wearing it, but I’m worried my hair will make me feel like I have no choice.

Has anyone else experienced this? How do you manage fine, low-density 4B hair when its natural thinness makes matting, frizz and sparse areas more noticeable? I’d really appreciate honest advice❤️❤️
Right now my hair is straight but it will go back to being curly soon 🥹😭

I once read a post here about someone thinking about lying about the reason why they chose to take off the hijab in the aim to avoid questions and judgment.
For example, if someone lies by saying they have scalp issues, found a job that requires them removing it, had to remove it for any other practical reason, then the action of removing it will be more or less “justified” and easier to shut people up.

I have had similar thoughts before, but the idea of lying like that is scary and against my values, idk - but it really is the easy way out for someone who hates confrontation and keeps their beliefs and opinions to themselves (especially in conservative muslim societies where everyone seems to have the right to be nosy and judgmental in your face!).

What are your thoughts on this?