Not understanding anymore if my mother has a bad intention or if it's me seeing it that way
I feel terribly guilty for always perceiving some kind of bad intention in my mother's words or actions. I mean, maybe she meant it genuinely, without any strategy behind it, and yet I constantly wonder if she did it on purpose, to achieve some kind of result/reaction, or I don't know.
For example, she just texted me commenting a picture that my boyfriend posted on facebook of himself saying "he looks nice, but he should really get a professional hair cut" . Maybe it's me, but I think this is very intrusive (not really the first time it happens) - actually she put a lot of winking emojis so possibly she just wanted to show some kind of "closeness". I know it's silly but it really hurt me, like seeing how she feels entitled to comment and say what other people should do with their lives. Anything she says comes through as some kind of criticism, like she necessarily needs to express her opinion. This really irritates me but then I feel bad for not taking it more positively or superficially at least.