u/CottonCandyAbyss

I'm FTM 15w pregnant SAHW. My MIL barely works. She has a part time doordash* delivery job she barely shows up to, gets $100 a week in unemployment, and receives money from her late husband's death. She's constantly complaining to me about how expensive food and gas are, wanting to get on food stamps, and how stressful taking care of her dogs are.

She's always saying she's lonely, but she refuses to do anything social and wants her 2 adult sons to fill that void. Her other son is already paying her bills and some of her rent, and she still complains he doesn't spend enough time with her even though he lives with his gf.

My husband has a good job and we own a house with space for her, so I know what she's hinting at with all her complaining.. moving in with us. Husband has made it clear he doesn't want her living with us, and I agree. I'm pregnant and just want to focus on starting our family in peace without her constantly here wanting to hang out all the time.

Thing is, I feel guilty and bad for her. I wonder if I'm the asshole or if I'm being selfish for not wanting her around when she's lonely and wanting help.

*edit uber to doordash

ok so here's the sit:

my MIL barely works. She has a part time uber job she barely shows up to, gets $100 a week in unemployment, and receives money from her late husband's death. Still she's constantly complaining to me about how expensive food and gas are and talking about applying for food stamps.

She's always saying she's lonely, but she refuses to do anything social and wants her 2 sons to fill that void. Her other son is already paying her bills and rent, but she still complains he doesn't spend enough time with her even though he lives with his gf.

My husband has a good job and we own a house with room for her so I can tell what she's hinting at with her complaining.. moving in with us. He has made it clear he doesn't want her living here, and I agree. I'm pregnant and just want to focus on starting our family in peace without her hanging around constantly. But I still feel guilty and wonder if I'm in the wrong of selfish for not wanting her here when she's lonely and wants help.

where would you post a question like this?