u/Counting-Bears

Does anyone else (particularly those of average or taller height) wonder if maybe they’ve been in denial about how big they started? I’m 5’9” so tall’ish but not super tall. I constantly see people posting their starting pics, particularly in the range of 210-265lbs and I always think “oh I have less to lose than that,” and then I see the numbers and realize I was bigger and in some cases still am. I know I was morbidly obese (now obese II) and I know I was/am fat and don’t look great. But it’s like my head never really acknowledged how bad it was maybe. I guess maybe it’s a height / bone structure thing where I don’t feel like I’ve carried the weight in a super obvious way. But it makes me wonder what others think of my weight and shape when they see me and if maybe we notice it more on others than ourselves. Can anyone relate? Is my brain playing tricks on me?

What type of appetizer or snack or dessert? Do you bring to a party when junk food doesn’t sound good to you? Charcuterie has already been covered by somebody else. Help?

Context:
-100k in an old employer 401k
-Self employed (llc sole prop) with a self employed 401k via Fidelity but currently ineligible to contribute because I hired an employee
-Also, part time employed and newly eligible for employer 401k receiving employer funding with no match requirement (but contributing anyways)

I’m kicking myself for not rolling this over into my solo plan before hiring my employee. I’m not allowed to now right? I’m not sure if that has different rules from contributions.

I just learned that the old 401k has a requirement that it all has to be withdrawn or rolled over at once. It sounds so bizarre but it is making me really want that money moved somewhere else. It has done well where it is investment wise but the company holding it combined with policies that the previous employer had that apply to it make me want it moved.

Do I roll into an ira at Fidelity so that I have control? I really don’t think I’m ever going to be rich enough to care about not being able to do a backdoor roth. Anyone else feel like that and later regret it?

Do I roll it into current employer 401k? The fund options and software really suck so I don’t really like this option.