Crush behaviour analysis
So there’s this guy “S” and I genuinely cannot tell if this is unresolved feelings, emotional attachment, or just two people who got too comfortable with each other.
So context:
A while back, me and S got close during internship phase/life transition stuff.After the intern got over, we used to spend HOURS on Google Meet together — watching anime, movies, random late night conversations about the girl he liked in university and in school, just existing in each other’s company. It felt very natural and comforting. He was genuinely kind and soft with me. Never creepy, never disrespectful, very emotionally warm in his own way.
I slowly developed a pretty serious crush on him.
The issue was: he was VERY inconsistent.
Sometimes he’d be super present, affectionate, emotionally available. Then suddenly disappear for days because of “family problems” or personal stuff. And I’m someone who gets anxious with inconsistency 😭 so I started feeling like maybe I cared way more than he did.
We eventually had an argument because I basically told him:
“you can’t just randomly vanish and expect me to be okay.”
That night he texted me at like 4 AM asking if I was angry, saying he was having nightmares, couldn’t sleep etc. I got upset because I felt he trauma dumps and then disappears. He got defensive for a minute because he misread one of my texts, then immediately calmed down and apologized. We planned to talk properly later.
Eventually I learned that his younger sister has chronic depression and his family situation is genuinely emotionally heavy. Which honestly changed my perspective a lot because suddenly his inconsistency made more sense.
Still, at that time, I detached emotionally because I felt:
“He likes me MAYBE, but not enough the way I want.”
So I made peace with it.
NOW HERE’S THE CONFUSING PART 😭
Recently we started talking again casually and suddenly all the comfort came back immediately.
He keeps initiating movie nights again and ofcourse i agree too.
Late night “you wanna watch something?”
Google Meet calls.
Shared inside jokes.
Anime/movie discussions.
Yesterday he literally sneaked out with his laptop to sit in the lobby at night just so we could watch a movie together because he had a fight with his sister and couldn’t stay in the room 😭
We watched The Intern till the end even though the movie itself was kinda mid lol. But it felt NICE. Like companionable nice.
And before starting the movie he randomly said:
“acha lgra baat krke wapas se”
WHICH ??? 😭😭😭
And now my brain is confused again.
Because I genuinely detached from my old crush. I don’t feel obsessive anymore. But I still feel like there’s SOMETHING emotionally significant between us.
The weirdest part is:
he’s never directly flirted heavily or confessed anything. But he always comes back. Always wants connection. Always wants shared time.
And I genuinely cannot tell:
\- does he just emotionally lean on me because I’m comforting?
\- does he actually have lingering feelings?
\- or are we both just emotionally attached to a bond that never fully became anything?
Also important:
when family is involved, he absolutely prioritizes them first. Which I respect now. But that was originally the reason I felt unwanted.
So Reddit pls analyse this man because my brain is soup 😭