Major Epiphany today
Today my friend (M 30ish). Let me in on his baby mama drama. Both-equally-right-and-wrong type of a situation. Very intense. I could only offer moral support. What got to me was when he referred to his son as that "little demon". That got to me bad I wanted to scold him back but he was in a very bad state so I just disengaged and went to my apartment immediately. A few minutes later I went out to collect my self treat! Ramen, vermouth and some meats. Coincidentally I found him waiting outside for his baby mama and son to arrive. It's that time of the month when finances aren't that good. I feel bad for him. He talked about some expenses they had to talk about.. For some reason it was a very eye opening moment for me. The contrast of it all. I am waiting for my treat, he is there waiting for something that evidently cause him stress. At the same time?.
Not sure if this post will get deleted or what but I ve been a long time lurker of this sub and my stance regarding children is- I don't even have to think about it, objectively having children is a bit of a chore and extra stress...
I don't where else I had to share this experience.
Edit 3: I can't believe how carthatic this is. I have never really expressed my views regarding this topic. Please bear with me
Edit 2: I am child free and want to keep this way. Thank you everyone for making me realize this!
Edit 1: Thank you everyone for the comments. Today has been eye opening. I believe this friendship no long serves anything of any purpose in my life. I believe children expose the true character of people. He is currently playing a loud lullaby and it is so intrusive, and cajoling a child he called a demon a few hours ago, I find that disgusting unfortunately. As painful as it sound I am cutting this person out of my life.