u/CowAccomplished3515

I made a joke about how if he upset me I wouldn’t let him have any but then he said it wouldn’t count as rape if we’re in a relationship. A few weeks ago he slept over and I told him no crossing the pillow bc I didn’t want to do anything but he did it anyway and says that I gave him mixed signals bc I backed up into him but I was just trying to cuddle. I made a comment to him about how I sort of felt like I was being used for just sex and he said no and we talked it out but then he asked me if can touch my p*ssy. Are these red flags ? It’s really confusing bc he’s so giving and kind and showers me with love and affection and always gets out to open the car door and pays for everything and buys me chocolates and booked us a trip And writes me sweet notes