u/CowgirlPopPrincess

My husband is running his first 100-mile race this weekend and we’re stuck in a disagreement about whether I (and our kids) should go.

Originally, the plan was for us to take our RV and our three young kids so we could meet him at different aid stations throughout the race and camp where convenient. But after looking more closely at the course, a lot of the aid stations aren’t crew-accessible, and the race is in a pretty remote area with little to no cell service.

Now my husband thinks I should stay home with the kids because he’s worried about me being out there alone with them for 30 something hours without service. I understand his concern, but I really want to be there to encourage him and see him finish. It feels like a huge moment to miss.

He feels like it should be his call since it’s his race and he doesn’t want to be worried about us while running. I feel like it should be my choice since I’m the one handling the kids and the logistics.

There’s also the added factor that he’ll have a 5-hour drive home after finishing, and I’m honestly a little worried about him doing that after running 100 miles, even if he rests first.

Neither of us are budging going back and forth about it. We both have our minds made up.

So… whose choice is it? I really think I can handle the kids (I’m with them all the time anyways). And I honestly think we’d have a fun time. He’s not believing it. He doesn’t want to get to an aid station with grumpy children or worry about us struggling.