u/CrazyHuaRe

It's not like someone will date in their late 20s and 30s, that's the time for marriage usually.

I have seen people on this sub discouraging people to date because it'll impact their career and life. But isn't this also part of life?

It's very frustrating. I have seen people discouraging others to not learn to swim or go on treks because they're afraid that it'll be bad. But why don't they actually encourage to learn these instead of just backing out of fear?

She is a housewife and I send her around 20k per month for expenses which she will withdraw from ATM. Apart from that, no other use of it. She might use online facilities for checking statements and sometimes UPI.

She literally opened her account on hinge for an hour and found her current bf, and previously found her hookups too within a day.

And here I am, who has to build muscles, and personality and get rich and travel to even get a single like or get noticed.

While my ex kept complaining how I did just bare minimum and was not emotionally invested and never gave her enough attention.

While I had to juggle my job and responsibility for my sick mother, she used to keep fighting because I didn't call her enough or didn't ask how she was doing or forgot her periods started.

She said it would be the worst that we won't end up together if we are soulmates.

IDK how people come up with such sentences and feelings and express it too. I personally cannot even get to the surface of what they feel.

We broke up due to differences and incompatibility, but we did have a great connection.

Whenever she was with me, I felt calm and so did she. She would sleep instantly whenever I was around and I would stop overthinking whenever she was around.

And it's very important that you don't let those advices get to your head in the name of "external perspective".

No one here knows the full context of your situation and they end up giving the most generic advice they can and that's breaking up.

They don't know what you feel, what you go through on a day to day basis, and most of them just want to sound philosophical and slide into your DMs.

So be very very careful.