We have local elections tomorrow. We use postal votes in our house. I have difficulty with walking even moderate distances and I don't have photo id. Received the letter telling me about the upcoming election and that I'd receive my ballot in the next week or so.
But I never received my ballot. My father never mentioned we'd received them. He kept them on the table amongst the stuff relating to my deceased brother then moved them into the living room, telling my mother "I've put those things on there by the radio". No mention of ballot papers.
I am going to be honest here. I saw them on the table but I didn't want to take mine because I was worried I'd be yelled at for going through stuff that "was none of my business" ie the legal documents about selling my brother's house etc. Besides, I was sure he'd let me know. In the meantime I'd completely forgotten about them.
Fast forward to tonight. When I came back into the living room after getting my supper, I noticed my dad glance at me. I know that seemingly innocent glance. It meant that I was in trouble for something. So I was on edge. Waiting for the hammer to fall.
He then asked me if I'd voted yet in that slightly smug way narcs do. Obviously not. He knew I hadn't. He then asked if I was and reminded me that I had until 10pm tomorrow night to get my vote in.
He has been planning this for weeks. Why? Apart from he's a narc, either something else is stressing him out so he wanted to take out his frustration on me or he's annoyed at having to complete a reference form for my ADHD referral.
I'm kind of dreading the face to face assessment now as I don't know what he's put. I think I might have to tell the assessor that I made a dreadful mistake and I should have said I didn't have a reference. Maybe I've bruised his ego. He's a retired occupational psychologist so maybe he thinks he should have spotted it. But the old theories and beliefs around neurodivergence are out of date. Girls can have ADHD and doesn't always manifest as hyperactive behaviour.
At least I'm now more prepared.