My (39M) friend (35F) wants to go swinging with me. We are not dating.
Okay, to start with, we never were in a relationship, and we also never talked about it. When we started to hang out pre-(certainpandemic), we just watched movies together and just got drunk sometimes. Then we had a huge fight because she took money from me and never paid it back. Since then we made up. I refused to get paid back, but i´m also not lending her any money anymore. A week ago we had a discussion about being on the bigger side (she is veeeeery curvy), and i admitted that i really like chubby women, but i cannot stand my own. That´s why i started weight loss. Long way to go, but you can already see results...... okay, back to topic. She sent me a not revealing pic of her in her new, extra large bed, and i asked her if it is new and solid, which she both confirmed with a weird smiley attached. My sister saw this and said she obviously wants to invite me into the bed. I kinda shrugged it off. Then today she brought up that she wants to go swinging with me.
Last time we spoke she said she was in an open relationship. Since then i have doubts about that. So my question is; Is this normal? For sex positive people, i mean. If you go swinging with somebody, wouldn´t you atleast ask or bring your bf along? This is very confusing. Does she want something more? How do i deal with this?
(And yes, i actually have a mayor crush on her. But she said she is taken. And i´m certain if she reads this, i´m done for)