Is this emotional abuse? Navigating a new monogamous relationship
My bf 36m is mad at me 36f for not wanting to go to a festival after I found out he was to hang out with him, me, and his ex-threesome partner from about a year ago. We were supposed to tent just the three of us. I had to buy an RV myself and beg for her to not tag along there too. Even with new accommodations I don’t feel comfortable with it just being the three of us the whole time. I won’t be able to let loose and relax like I want to at a festival. I told him he can go without me or we can go with a bigger group or go next year instead. I know I said I want to Kim’s but I have cords, am deeply depressed and feel extremely triggered by the way he has been talking to me. Is this gaslighting? He also emotionally abused me by telling me I’m boring and “this is why we can’t do fun things.” I don’t think it’s fair to write off her as “just a friend” like my friends. This is a huge demand on me emotionally and I don’t want to live my life by anxiety but I don’t feel safe here either.
Honest advice please. Even if it’s critical of me. I know I’m extremely monogamous and I struggle to understand open relationships. We are currently monogamous and I hope it’s not something disappointing to him.