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People in Gurgaon keep posting “how do I make friends here?” Meanwhile my friends are actively ruining my life.

So me and one of my closest friends are living in a flat owned by another friend. All 3 of us did our bachelors from same college and somehow all ended up in Gurgaon. We also have other bachelor friends nearby, so life is basically a daily sitcom at this point.

Now my flatmate recently went to visit his gf in his hometown. Man came back and for reasons still unknown to science, kept his condoms inside MY room wardrobe. He even told me about it. I said okay and completely forgot.

Fast forward to today.

My mama visited my flat.

Now the funny thing is, I don’t drink or smoke and my family already doesn’t believe me when I say I don’t have a girlfriend 😭

Before mama came, I cleaned all the evidence of my flatmate’s “activities” from the flat like a responsible citizen.

But destiny had other plans.

This man somehow opens MY wardrobe and finds the condom packet.

The silence after that discovery… felt longer than my engineering degree.

I tried explaining it’s not mine. But let’s be honest, no Indian uncle has ever believed a sentence that starts with:

“Actually mama, it belongs to my friend…”

I think my family has now silently accepted that I have a secret double life.

Meanwhile my flatmate is laughing like this is peak comedy.

People are asking where to find friends in Gurgaon.

Brother, take mine. Please.

Created new account to share my thoughts as I have my friends connected to my old account 😂

I am 30M, around 6 feet tall, athletic build, from Gurgaon. Done masters from old IIT and working in Energy sector. Fair, cute and decent looking too I guess, at least that’s what people keep telling me 😄

I had a breakup around 2.5 years back and after that I genuinely needed time for myself. Not because I stopped believing in relationships, but because I knew I wasn’t mentally ready to commit again. I wanted to work on myself first, focus on career, family, fitness, mindset, everything.

Till last week, I had never installed a dating app in my life. Honestly I always thought apps are not for me. But one random day I thought maybe it’s not such a bad idea to just explore and see if I can meet someone nice. So I installed Bumble.

The response honestly surprised me. I was getting 40-50 likes daily and 20-30 matches too. But the weird thing was… most conversations felt empty. Some girls even asked directly for my number within few messages, but I never felt comfortable sharing it with someone I didn’t genuinely connect with. Also I didn’t want to waste anyone’s time pretending interest when I wasn’t feeling it.

Then I met this girl.

She was cute, simple, calm, and talking to her felt peaceful. That’s the best word I can use. Peaceful.

I am from Bihar and she is from Uttarakhand. We started talking daily. Slowly conversations became longer and deeper. We talked about childhood memories, family, friends, hobbies, future plans, random funny incidents, school stories… all those small things which actually matter.

One thing that came up in our conversations was smoking and drinking. I have never smoked or drank in my life. Not even once. She used to drink and smoke occasionally. She herself said it’s very limited and if things work out in future she won’t continue it. I won’t lie, it did bother me a little because I know long term these things can become an issue for me. But I appreciated her honesty.

Then we met for our first date.

And honestly… it was one of the nicest dates I have had in my life.

We sat and talked for almost 3-4 hours straight. No awkwardness, no fake behaviour, no unnecessary showing off. Just genuine conversation. We laughed about childhood memories, talked about grandparents, school life, old friends, funny stories. At one point I even jokingly told her that if things work out someday, we’ll go meet your grandparents too 😄

After reaching home, she herself confirmed for a second date. That made me happy because it felt mutual.

She had done MBA in marketing. I was telling her that she should try for a better MBA college because she genuinely had potential and it could boost her career a lot. Jokingly she said, “If you sponsor my ISB fees, I’ll do it.”

I laughed it off at that moment.

What I never told her was… if things genuinely worked out between us, I wouldn’t have even thought twice before supporting her dreams. At that time itself I had around 15+ lakhs sitting in my account and financially I am doing pretty stable. My family’s net worth is above 30 crore and currently I’m also working on expanding family business and building more income sources myself. Recently invested around 40+ lakhs into a property setup which should generate around 1-1.5 lakh monthly rent. There are other investments too.

But funny thing is… none of that mattered to me while talking to her.

What mattered was how peaceful I felt.

She also used to share random updates during the day — where she was going, what she was doing, gym updates, random things. And honestly I liked that comfort building slowly.

I had already deleted Bumble after our first date.

Not because she asked me to. Just because I realised I genuinely didn’t enjoy the app culture. Too many people, too many conversations, too much energy wasted.

Then suddenly things changed.

Replies became slower. First hours. Then 1-2 messages in a day. Then almost nothing.

I asked once if everything was okay or if something happened. No reply.

And after that I never texted again.

Not because of ego. But because somewhere deep down I realised something important — I am not ready for the anxiety that comes with waiting for someone’s reply anymore.

I noticed myself checking phone, waiting, overthinking timelines. And that’s when I understood maybe I healed from my past relationship, but I’m still not ready to emotionally invest into uncertainty again.

Strangely, instead of anger, I felt thankful towards her.

Because she made my decision easier.

Few days later I felt peaceful again. And I realised maybe this phase of my life is still meant for self-growth, family, business, fitness, friendships and building things… not dating apps.

I have received proposals too during these years, but respectfully declined because I never wanted to commit unless I genuinely felt ready.

And honestly, I’m proud of myself right now.

I’m working on my health, career, mindset, investments, family business, and surrounding myself with people who think long term. Friends with similar mindset help a lot too.

Maybe someday I’ll meet someone naturally.

But for now, I think I’m done with dating apps. Never going to install again.

And surprisingly… I’m okay with that.

Summary: Sometimes people come into your life not to stay forever, but to help you understand yourself better. I realised I value peace, emotional stability, and genuine connection more than excitement or attention. And maybe right now, working on myself still feels more right than chasing relationships.

My flatmate ended my “single guy” image in one day