u/Crazy_Maize1331

I 30 got married to my husband 37 three years ago. It was an arranged marriage but we both agreed to proceed after talking for a little. During our talking stage, he emphasised on prioritising Islam and prayers. He was very upfront on being simple and non-materialistic, which all aligned with my own way of living. I got to know his family and they were all genuine and loving, and family oriented.

Unfortunately I believe the image he was trying to portray prior to marriage was just a facade. When we got married in the UK, he kept up with the image of a perfect man, but as soon as we flew over to the US where he resided, all of it just slipped away. He turned into a very different person. He did however remain sweet, kind and attentive, but over the period of three years, a lot went south, mainly regarding his past and current habits. He is a hard weed smoker and has had romantic relationships with Caucasian women in the past, alongside bad drinking habits (which he stopped) but all of that has made him regard me as boring and less attractive.

I have come to know him and know that there is good in him, but what pains me is the fact that he won't sponsor me into the US despite wanting a future with me. We spoke about separation many times and he rejected the idea immediately. I just don't understand why he then won't let me have a life here with him. Its not only that, he is depriving me of safety and security. He sometimes comes to his senses and asks me to prepare the paper form for the visa so he could file it, but then changes his mind at the last minute, saying that he scared of the future and that we are not compatible. That is such cruelty and it is beyond me.

He had a very traumatic past and I understand that he finds it hard to make big decisions. It is not easy for him to venture out and for that he has undergone therapy sessions.

As for me, I don't think I am ready to leave him as I cannot bear going through another arranged marriage, which could be much worse. Plus I don't want to burden my family with more added stress.

I just don't know how to assure my husband and make him understand his responsibilities as a man, and guide him. But at the same time I am uncertain of his actual position and where he stands. He doesn't want out, but is also not happy, but then nothing makes him happy.

I would sincerely appreciate any guidance on how to proceed. I really don't want to leave him and I know it is making me lose my worth, but I genuinely want to try making it work

Hi all,

I am currently in the process of filing my paperwork starting with the I-130 and I am unsure whether the evidence I am providing is sufficient enough.

My husband and I married outside of the US and I moved in with him a year after, overstaying my tourist visa in the process. We do not have any joint accounts, leases or any receipts together and we mainly travelled within the US so unfortunately we do not have any flight tickets either. All I am able to accumulate is a collage of pictures of us and our families together. As well as a couple of screen shots of our conversation/phone logs. I also uploaded our religious marriage certificate and counselling, which is separate to our legal marriage, in hope that it might help.

I am growing nervous thinking about a potential rejection and would like to hear if anyone else was able to get their forms approved with limited evidence and proof.