Self conscious about coming off as “thirsty”
So I’m 40 and about to start in a beginners pickleball league. I need another outlet besides dating apps to meet men! The thing is, I’m so self conscious about coming off as the thirsty single girl when I meet single men in spaces like this. I’ve been single for 15 years and have done tons of activities over the years - joined a bike trip solo last summer, bike co-op with weekly rides, soccer, hashing, run clubs that meet for coffee after. I love activities that don’t require drinking because I used to use alcohol as a way to trick my brain into believing that I was having a real connection with a guy when we were just drunk. I met a guy in a run club once and we hooked up a few times but he ghosted me and then a guy in a run club followed me to my apartment drunk one night - otherwise no relationships came of these! I genuinely enjoy these activities without meeting guys but I feel self conscious about coming across as over eager but I don’t want to also come off as not interested or already in a relationship. I genuinely understand that people are going to say “wow you’re an anxious over thinker just be you” - I get it. I’m in therapy and have been for years. I just want to do things differently and not get in my own way. Has anyone successfully met a partner in one of these kinds of clubs and how did you do it? Like how did you go from casual activity to things being romantic? I’ve only done it drunk :(