Partner is getting "too wet" from oral, doesn't like it, stops feeling anything
When I'm (20M) giving my gf oral (20F),she will randomly have me stop, then she'll say something along the lines of "it's too wet, I can feel the wetness on my fucking thighs".
We talked about it in detail, she says that all the wetness is giving her sensory trouble and that after a certain "point of wetness" she starts to feel nothing but "the fluids moving around down there". It's mostly the " feeling nothing " part that ruins it for her, she says that sometimes the pleasure overshadows the sensory issue.
Since we're both pretty inexperienced we don't really know how to approach this and she isn't comfortable "practicing sexual things" cause it sucks the emotional connection out of it, something I somewhat agree with.
Should I just "go harder", tense my tongue a bit when I notice it's getting too wet so she can feel it more? Or should I just have a wipe in my hand and occasionally wipe her, but in turn risking ruining the moment. (I fucking love giving oral, she adores receiving oral, abrupt stops kinda ruin it for the both of us)
Obviously the best thing to do is talk to her directly, her crippling performance anxiety and low self-esteem make such conversations pretty difficult, I will eventually, but if I can make some blind progress until then, might as well
Any advice, what's your experience with "being too wet",
How do I tackle this?