Just looking for other thoughts on this:
My work colleague got married last weekend. We had talked plenty about the plans in the weeks leading up to the wedding and she had mentioned being limited on guests at the venues (registry office then pub for the reception).
I did not receive an invitation of any kind to her wedding day. I was slightly disappointed as I thought we were closer than that but at the end of the day, I understood her guest limits and that nobody is ever entitled to an invitation so I didn't say anything.
On the morning of her wedding day, I sent a heartfelt message wishing her a wonderful day and how happy I was for her and her groom.
Today when I saw her (first time since the wedding) she made a comment about expecting I would have popped in for a drink. I replied that I wasn't actually invited and that's why I didn't. She then said that I knew where and when it was (from our conversations, yes I did).
Now I feel conflicted because it seems like she thought I would show up at some point - even briefly - but I really felt like without an invitation or even a verbal "of course, please pop in for a drink some point in the evening" or a "please join us" it would be wrong of me to just show up.
Did I make a mistake?
Note: this was a very casual wedding celebration, no sit down dinner etc.