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I (20F) finally broke up with my boyfriend after the cheating stuff and now I feel weirdly free but also empty?

Hey guys, some of you might remember my post from a couple days ago. I (20F) found those flirty messages from other girls on my bf’s phone. I confronted him and he tried to gaslight me at first, saying I was overreacting and it was “just talking.” But I couldn’t let it go. Last weekend I ended it for good.
Now I’m single for the first time in two years and it’s such a mix of emotions. I cried a lot the first few days but now I feel… lighter? Like I can actually breathe. I’ve been taking more photos of myself, buying some cute (and kinda revealing) stuff I never dared to wear before, and honestly enjoying feeling sexy again without worrying if he’ll like it.
But at night I still get sad and wonder if I’ll ever find someone who actually chooses me. I’ve also been way more in touch with my body lately if you know what I mean… exploring more and it’s making me feel confident but also a little guilty for liking it so much. Is this normal after a breakup? How long did it take you to actually feel okay again? Did anyone else go through a “hot girl summer” phase right after and then feel kinda lost?
Thanks for listening. This subreddit helped me feel less alone last time

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u/Creative_Finger6310 — 12 days ago
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Hey everyone, I’ve been lurking here for a while but finally posting. I’m 20 and I’ve been with my bf since I was 18. We met in college and everything was great at first. Lately he’s been super distant, always on his phone, and last night I saw messages from like 3 different girls. Nothing super explicit but the flirty stuff still hurt.

I feel ugly and boring now.

Like, I’ve been trying to lose the last 10 lbs I gained during lockdown and I keep comparing myself to those girls in the pics. I’ve always been kinda shy about my body too. I want to feel wanted again but I don’t even know how to start. Should I confront him or just leave? Has anyone been through this and actually come out feeling better about themselves? I just feel lost

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u/Creative_Finger6310 — 19 days ago