I’m Thinking of Leaving my BF
I (f30) have been dating my boyfriend (m40) for 2 years and I’m worried it may not work out long term. I have never been so in love or comfortable with another person. I can honestly say he is my best friend, supports me in every way, and truly takes care of me in ways I thought only existed in fairytales.
The main issue is he drinks every single day. It does not affect his work, but in previous conversations he has said he enjoys drinking and does not want to stop. He will drink anywhere from 7-12 beers a night and the one thing that flashes through my mind is that people “marry their past trauma”. I come from a family of addicts (drugs and alcohol) and I worry that I am looking past his drinking to see what I want and that it will effect the relationship down the road even if it isn’t now.
I know that I would love to marry him and that I have an anxious attachment style which can make me victim to mind spirals.
To preemptively answer some questions; I don’t want kids and I have a job and make very good money so that is not a concern. Would love any advice if you have any.