Twin boys being wild at daycare- got a warning
Hi,
I’m just looking for advice. My boys are almost 3 years old and have been staying at a small home day care for the past year. The teacher always says they have really good days there and I’ve only gotten a couple of reports of any behavioral issues but always with a “it’s okay, it’s developmentally expected”. Yesterday when I picked them up she told me that the boys are very disruptive to the group, won’t share toys or listen to a degree where she doesn’t know if they can stay. I asked what has been done to address it and I why I wasn’t told earlier (they only tell me they have great days) she didn’t really have an answer. One of my twins had a swollen eye and when I asked she said that he fell from a toy, he didn’t listen when she asked him to stop. I don’t know why she didn’t intervene hands on to help him.
I have a couple of thoughts about all this. At home they listen pretty well for their age and I haven’t noticed anything out of the ordinary for 3 year old boys. I can take them easily on outings, they listen and they are fairly easy to handle in my opinion. I don’t know what’s going on at daycare but a couple of new kids started recently so the group is bigger now. Daycare changes happened a year ago too and again she struggled with my boys in particular during this change.
I am thinking about changing structure for them as I don’t want them to stay if they disrupt. What are your thoughts on nanny vs Montessori daycare vs traditional daycare vs stay at home with me. Would you reach out to get a behavioral evaluation?
I work full time right now so I am pretty stressed about this. Thankful for any input!