I think my wife fell out of love with me; I’m afraid to ask.
I’ve never made a post like this before.
I haven’t spoken these words, nor said this to anyone.
I’m afraid to voice it. But I feel it, and it hurts.
My wife and I have been together 20 years. There have been signs she’s pulling away.
It started about 2 years ago with “going to bed” early every night with headphones in listening to a podcast.
Then she stopped texting me during day / engaging in any conversation with me unless it’s child related.
Recently, she’s canceled on two dates I made with her. I arranged childcare and plans and both times she “didn’t feel like it.”
I frequently bring up trying to spend more time together. Yeah, it’s hard with kids. A tv show, a board game, something together. But when I say I’ve been getting zero effort from her, I mean absolutely zero.
I’m left with the conclusion .. that the truth is, she’s fallen out of love with me. She doesn’t want to spend time with me, it’s crystal clear. She doesn’t apologize for it, nor attempts to make any changes to the status quo.. and maybe we both kinda know it .. and it hurts.. but the crazy thing is I’m still in love with her .. I just think she’s no longer in love with me.
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