What do I do if someone is asking me out at work and is really creeping me out?
I am an 18 year old women and I work in a Cinema. We are very short on staff so there are always new employees joining. Last week a 40 year old man joined and was assigned to my shift so I needed to show him what we do at work and see how he was doing. He kept saying things that I found kind of rude and made me uncomfortable. For example he always commented about how good he looks and how women always just look on his outside and not the inside because he has such beautiful blue eyes (I don't want to be mean to people's appearance, but I don't think he looked that great and it seems he didn't wash his hair in a while). He kept talking about the customers after they left, especially about the women. "See her tattoo? I don't like tattoos, it's ruining the body we where given". A second later the women with tattoos returned and he told her he loved her tattoo. Also when two women holding hands entered he whispered to me are they lesbians? are they lesbians? over and over again and I pretended not to understand him. He was always showing off about his second job, said it was something with computers (I didn't really understand what he was talking about). But like then why are you coming to work in a Cinema? Every time we needed to carry something heavy he would insist on carrying it, even though I'm pretty sure I'm stronger than him and I'm also taller than him and he really struggled with carrying the things. But still he wouldn't let me carry them, it made me really annoyed and was very condescending. After I finally started carrying them myself because he physically couldn't do it he asked me if I was a tomboy because he said he can see I am a bit tomboyish. He said I dressed not like the other girls and that he preferred women that dress like me. Another thing that annoyed me is that when I told him I had two dads (a fact I don't usually share with a lot of people, especially not someone like him, but I felt uncomfortable lying because he asked me about my mother), he said he was sorry my birth mother abandoned me. Now, I told him it was a surrogate and that she is not really my mother and that I have two loving parents that happened to be two men. But he didn't care he insisted on saying he was sorry about it and compered it to him losing his dad at 20 years old. I was really trying to stay nice and civil because we are working together and the shift is long. But every second of that shift that lasted almost 8 hours was a nightmare and he never stopped talking. I submitted a report on him that said he did the job well but he made me personally uncomfortable and made rude remarks about some customers.
Yesterday I saw him again. It was the end of my shift and the start of his. At the end of the shift I always need to restock the bathrooms with toilet paper and clean it. When I entered the woman's bathrooms he followed me and said very quietly that he thought we had a lot in common and that he wants to go on a date with me. After of course asking me if I was 18. And man if you need to even ask that doesn't it already answer your question? It made me so very uncomfortable. I told him it wasn't ok and that I don't feel the same way and quickly left the bathroom. I told two of my coworkers what happened in the bathroom because I felt really bad. I also asked them earlier if it was relevant information that he made me uncomfortable to put in the report for feedback about him. So they knew what I thought about him. Then after he and the other employees came to switch shifts with us, He whispered to me this is between us right? And I told him yes yes. But now I feel kind of guilty because I told some people. I also told someone that I'm kind of close to and he got mad in my behalf and told the shift manger that was there to not assigned me and the 40 year old man to the same shifts.
I don't know what to do now. I'm kind of scared to go to work for fear I'll see him there in shift exchanges. And I'm scared he'll find out I told some people about him making me uncomfortable and asking me out. And I also feel really guilty because I was maybe too nice to him and I can tell he is not the brightest in the head. And I'm so mad because now I'm not comfortable going to work. And I have a shift later today and I don't know what to do.