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Context: I am a 22 M in a relationship for past 3 years. I have a small, really close friend circle (3 people including me). Both of them are in a on-off type relationship with their girlfriends or situationship (IDK the exact term for this type of relationship??) All they do is fight and then agree to hookup. I dont have any problem with this (it’s their choice) but what irritates me is that they both keep forcing, taunting me and even humiliating my girlfriend for not having sex with me. Even their gfs laugh at us for having such a dry relationship (this is literally what they say). Me and my girlf both consensually agreed to have sex after marriage only. We both are quite goal driven (since we are in the same field) and serious about our future and sex doesn’t matter much.

I really want to know are we missing out on something, whether staying a virgin by choice is a bad decision, will it affect our future (I mean me and my girlfriend’s bond) and if experience matters.

Edit: We both are intimate (physical and emotional) Its not ki koi physical relation hai hi nhi, sab kuch hai except proper sex. That’s why i am quite confused and asking for advice.

Edit 2: Thank you everyone for their opinion and advice. Literally helped me a lot.

I’m a medical student thinking about building something similar to Codeforces/LeetCode/Kaggle but for medicine instead of coding/data science.

Not another passive MCQ/prep platform like UWorld or marrow, prepladder, etc.

The idea would be a competitive platform where medical students/residents participate in:
- clinical reasoning challenges
- emergency management simulations
- ECG/radiology interpretation contests
- ICU/triage scenarios
- hospital workflow cases
- medical coding/documentation challenges
- timed diagnostic competitions

Users would have:
- ratings/ELO
- specialty-wise ranks
- verified skill badges
- leaderboards
- public profiles/portfolios

Example:
A live “Chest Pain contest” where you evaluate a simulated patient in real time:
- history taking
- investigations
- ECG interpretation
- treatment decisions
- sudden deterioration management

Performance affects your rating similar to Codeforces/chess.

The idea is NOT to replace medical school exams or official licensing.

More like:
- a globally recognized extracurricular clinical skill platform
- a way to demonstrate applied reasoning skills beyond grades
- similar to how programmers mention Codeforces ratings or data scientists mention Kaggle rankings

One major vision is that:
high ratings + verified real-world activities/experience on the platform could help students strengthen applications for:
- electives
- observerships
- research labs
- international exchange programs
- internships
- innovation fellowships
- healthcare startups
- academic collaborations

Not as an official requirement, but as an additional signal of genuine interest and skill.

Potential additions:
- AI simulated patients
- global tournaments
- university leagues
- specialty-specific ladders (cardiology/radiology/emergency/etc.)
- team-based hospital simulations
- Grand Rounds-style competitions
- research/problem-solving hackathons

Questions:
- Would med students/residents actually use something like this?
- Would attendings/program directors/research labs see value in such ratings as a supplemental signal?
- What would make this genuinely useful vs just another med-ed app?
- Why do you think something like this hasn’t become mainstream yet?
- Which specialty/challenge mode would work best initially?

Would love honest opinions from med students, residents, attendings, med-ed people, researchers, or anyone in health-tech.
(Used AI)

I’m a medical student thinking about building something similar to Codeforces/LeetCode/Kaggle — but for medicine instead of coding/data science.

Not another passive MCQ/prep platform like UWorld or AMBOSS.

The idea would be a competitive platform where medical students/residents participate in:
- clinical reasoning challenges
- emergency management simulations
- ECG/radiology interpretation contests
- ICU/triage scenarios
- hospital workflow cases
- medical coding/documentation challenges
- timed diagnostic competitions

Users would have:
- ratings/ELO
- specialty-wise ranks
- verified skill badges
- leaderboards
- public profiles/portfolios

Example:
A live “Chest Pain Arena” where you evaluate a simulated patient in real time:
- history taking
- investigations
- ECG interpretation
- treatment decisions
- sudden deterioration management

Performance affects your rating similar to Codeforces/chess.

The idea is NOT to replace medical school exams or official licensing.

More like:
- a globally recognized extracurricular clinical skill platform
- a way to demonstrate applied reasoning skills beyond grades
- similar to how programmers mention Codeforces ratings or data scientists mention Kaggle rankings

One major vision is that:
high ratings + verified real-world activities/experience on the platform could help students strengthen applications for:
- electives
- observerships
- research labs
- international exchange programs
- internships
- innovation fellowships
- healthcare startups
- academic collaborations

Not as an official requirement, but as an additional signal of genuine interest and skill.

Potential additions:
- AI simulated patients
- global tournaments
- university leagues
- specialty-specific ladders (cardiology/radiology/emergency/etc.)
- team-based hospital simulations
- Grand Rounds-style competitions
- research/problem-solving hackathons

Questions:
- Would med students/residents actually use something like this?
- Would attendings/program directors/research labs see value in such ratings as a supplemental signal?
- What would make this genuinely useful vs just another med-ed app?
- Why do you think something like this hasn’t become mainstream yet?
- Which specialty/challenge mode would work best initially?

Would love honest opinions from med students, residents, attendings, med-ed people, researchers, or anyone in health-tech.
(Used AI)

I’m a medical student thinking about building something similar to Codeforces/LeetCode/Kaggle — but for medicine instead of coding/data science.

Not another passive MCQ/prep platform like UWorld or Marrow/prepladder

The idea would be a competitive platform where medical students/residents participate in:
- clinical reasoning challenges
- emergency management simulations
- ECG/radiology interpretation contests
- ICU/triage scenarios
- hospital workflow cases
- medical coding/documentation challenges
- timed diagnostic competitions

Users would have:
- ratings/ELO
- specialty-wise ranks
- verified skill badges
- leaderboards
- public profiles/portfolios

Example:
A live “Chest Pain Arena” where you evaluate a simulated patient in real time:
- history taking
- investigations
- ECG interpretation
- treatment decisions
- sudden deterioration management

Performance affects your rating similar to Codeforces/chess.

The idea is NOT to replace medical school exams or official licensing.

More like:
- a globally recognized extracurricular clinical skill platform
- a way to demonstrate applied reasoning skills beyond grades
- similar to how programmers mention Codeforces ratings or data scientists mention Kaggle rankings

One major vision is that:
high ratings + verified real-world activities/experience on the platform could help students strengthen applications for:
- electives
- observerships
- research labs
- international exchange programs
- internships
- innovation fellowships
- healthcare startups
- academic collaborations

Not as an official requirement, but as an additional signal of genuine interest and skill.

Potential additions:
- AI simulated patients
- global tournaments
- university leagues
- specialty-specific ladders (cardiology/radiology/emergency/etc.)
- team-based hospital simulations
- Grand Rounds-style competitions
- research/problem-solving hackathons

Questions:
- Would med students/residents actually use something like this?
- Would attendings/program directors/research labs see value in such ratings as a supplemental signal?
- What would make this genuinely useful vs just another med-ed app?
- Why do you think something like this hasn’t become mainstream yet?
- Which specialty/challenge mode would work best initially?

Would love honest opinions from people in healthtech etc.

I’m a medical student thinking about building something similar to Codeforces/LeetCode/Kaggle but for medicine instead of coding/data science.

Not another passive MCQ/prep platform like UWorld or Marrow/Prepladder etc.

The idea would be a competitive platform where medical students/residents participate in:
- clinical reasoning challenges
- emergency management simulations
- ECG/radiology interpretation contests
- ICU/triage scenarios
- hospital workflow cases
- medical coding/documentation challenges
- timed diagnostic competitions

Users would have:
- ratings/ELO
- specialty-wise ranks
- verified skill badges
- leaderboards
- public profiles/portfolios

Example:
A live “Chest Pain Arena” where you evaluate a simulated patient in real time:
- history taking
- investigations
- ECG interpretation
- treatment decisions
- sudden deterioration management

Performance affects your rating similar to Codeforces/chess.

The idea is NOT to replace medical school exams or official licensing.

More like:
- a globally recognized extracurricular clinical skill platform
- a way to demonstrate applied reasoning skills beyond grades
- similar to how programmers mention Codeforces ratings or data scientists mention Kaggle rankings

One major vision is that:
high ratings + verified real-world activities/experience on the platform could help students strengthen applications for:
- electives
- observerships
- research labs
- international exchange programs
- internships
- innovation fellowships
- healthcare startups
- academic collaborations

Not as an official requirement, but as an additional signal of genuine interest and skill.

Potential additions:
- AI simulated patients
- global tournaments
- university leagues
- specialty-specific ladders (cardiology/radiology/emergency/etc.)
- team-based hospital simulations
- Grand Rounds-style competitions
- research/problem-solving hackathons

Questions:
- Would med students/residents actually use something like this?
- Would attendings/program directors/research labs see value in such ratings as a supplemental signal?
- What would make this genuinely useful vs just another med-ed app?
- Why do you think something like this hasn’t become mainstream yet?
- Which specialty/challenge mode would work best initially?

Would love honest opinions from med students, residents, attendings, med-ed people, researchers, or anyone in health-tech.
(Used AI)

Hey everyone,

posting here to get some outside perspective especially from people who’ve been through the Indian medical system (not just ophthalmologists).

There’s something that’s been bothering me for a while. India has 30,000 ophthalmologists for 1.4 billion people. Cataracts are still the biggest cause of preventable blindness. The issue which i think is the traininng. A lot of residents are finishing their degrees with shockingly low surgical exposure. I’ve heard (and seen) cases where the median is like 5–10 independent surgeries before they’re labelled “specialists.” After that, they’re expected to go out, run clinics, and operate on their own.

Thats a massive gap i feel

So for the past year, we’ve been trying to think through a practical fix for this.

What we’ve come up with is a pretty focused 6-week training setup:

First 2 weeks: wet lab training in Delhi with structured practice and a proper exit assessment before touching real patients

Next 4 weeks: high-volume cataract OT in Vrindavan (150+ cases/month), supervised surgeries, and daily video feedback

End result: \~25 independently performed, verified cases (not just logbook inflation)

Small batches — 6 people at a time.

On paper, it feels like it addresses the exact gap taking someone from “theoretical specialist” to actually being able to operate with some confidence but I’m not sure how this holds up outside a controlled idea. A few things I’m genuinely unsure about:

Is ₹3 lakh a realistic ask for a fresh ophthalmologist just starting out?

Does splitting training between Delhi and a smaller city (Vrindavan) make sense, or is that a dealbreaker logistically?

Do names like Shroff Eye Centre actually matter at this stage, or is that irrelevant once you’re already a doctor?

And the bigger question, would something like this even be taken seriously, or just get dismissed as another “certificate course”?

Trying to check whether this is actually useful or just sounds good in theory.

Would really appreciate honest opinions, especially from people who’ve seen how things actually work on the ground.

TL;DR:

Ophthalmologists in India often graduate with very low surgical experience. Thinking about a 6-week, hands-on cataract surgery training programme (₹3L, Delhi + Vrindavan, \~25 real cases). Does this actually solve the problem, or just add another certificate?