AITA for telling my best friend she's not invited to my birthday this year after what she did last time
Some context: me and [name] have been friends for 11 years. I love her, I genuinely do, but she has this thing where she needs to be the center of attention in every room she's in. Most of the time I just let it go because it's not worth the fight and she doesn't even realize she's doing it. Last year for my 29th birthday I organized a small dinner, maybe 12 people, a restaurant I'd wanted to try for months. Within 20 minutes of sitting down she announced to the table that she and her boyfriend had just gotten engaged. Full ring presentation, crying, everyone's phones out, the whole thing. I want to be clear - I don't think she planned it to ruin my night. But she'd been engaged for 4 days at that point and specifically chose that moment. The rest of the dinner was entirely about her. I smiled and hugged her and went home and cried in my car. This year I'm turning 30 and I've been planning something actually special for months. When she asked about it I told her honestly that I wasn't inviting her this time, that I needed one night that stayed mine, and that we could celebrate together separately another time. She called me jealous and toxic and has been telling our mutual friends I'm "punishing her for being happy." I don't think that's what I'm doing. But now I'm second guessing myself. AITA?