(Long Post) I 26F hate when my boyfriend 21M travels for work
I, 26F cannot stand when my boyfriend of almost 1 year, 21M travels for work. He works for a franchise as a traveling trainer when new stores open, which is a AWESOME opportunity, and I’m incredibly proud of him for the work that he does. However. Every time he goes on a trip, I get screwed over in some way, and he doesn’t seem to understand why I get so upset… we don’t live together (yet 🤞🏻) but I stop by his house which is 30 minutes from mine, but close to my job, every day to take care of his (our) cat after I get off work. I go there after work anyways when he’s here, so there’s not a huge change in my routine but I still feel so odd and empty being in his house every day when it’s just me and the cat. Secondly, there is almost always some sort of miscommunication where he’s leaving 1-3 days later than he originally told me would be the “absolute latest” that he comes home. We have had plans completely fall through because he doesn’t come back on time, on multiple occasions. I explicitly asked him to not wait until we speak on the phone, and to please text me ASAP if there is a schedule change so that I can rearrange my schedule and plans if necessary. He regularly fails to do so, but gets defensive when I get upset. He even has tried to tell me he’s let me know about these changes but there’s no text message, and no correction when I say “I can’t wait until you come home (this day).” I feel like I’m missing so much context and added information, but that’s a tiny bit of it. Can someone who’s had a similar experience give me any advice on how to better address this in a productive way? I’m not trying to make him stop traveling, but I need SOMETHING to change. I do not want this to be the reason our relationship ends. Thank you if you took the time to read this, and/or respond 🩷