How to build healthy food habits when getting mixed messages…
I don’t know if this is the right place to post this, but here goes:
So essentially I have needed to lose weight for a while. The month of may-June is not very busy for me, just getting home from college, = perfect time to lose some serious weight. Today was my first day doing calorie tracking (I use MyNetDiary). I usually sleep through breakfast, so today I ate a roughly a 350 cal lunch, 350 cal dinner, and 100 cal snack. I know that it’s not a lot but I didn’t know what else to eat…
So I was laying on the couch because I didn’t feel super good/felt kinda hungry and my mom came over and asked what was wrong. I told her that I’d only eaten 800 calories all day and that I was hungry. She just said basically “if you’re hungry you’re losing weight, that’s good!”
Idk what to think. I know that I should’ve eaten more today. But at the same time I guess I was hoping that my mom would know that that’s not a sustainable or healthy amount to eat and encourage me to eat something. I guess because I know that it’s unhealthy I shouldn’t need her to tell me the same thing, but jt still felt wrong. This same thing happened a few years ago, when I lost 4 pounds in one week, and my mom told me how proud she was, not at all concerned if that was healthy or not. That incident kinda made me stop trying, because it didn’t feel worth it to lose weight if I was going to fall into a pattern of disordered eating.
I just don’t know what I should really do in this situation. I’ve talked to me mom a lot about wanting to lose weight, so if I talked to her about feeling weird about that comment she’d probably get mad at me and be like “well what do you want me to do, you said you wanted me to encourage you” I just don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m wasting my life by being overweight, but I don’t want to starve myself.