Heartbroken
My husband and I have been together for 8 years. From the very beginning, I was open about wanting children someday. He knew how important becoming a mom was to me, and over the years he reassured me that we’d eventually have one together. He told me just one and after exploratory surgery on my part I was clear. two years ago I heartbroken that we made no progress and I told him I was thinking about what life would be like for us to be child free.
Because of that, I fully committed to our future. I built a life with him, got married, and even went into Early Childhood Education because working with children made me realize even more deeply how much I want to be a mother.
Now, after all these years, he’s saying he still doesn’t want kids and never sees himself changing his mind.
I’m 27 about to turn 28 next month and honestly devastated. I feel like I built my entire future around promises that are suddenly gone. Part of me feels angry because if he had been honest from the start, I could’ve made different choices years ago. Another part of me feels guilty for even considering leaving over this because I do love him deeply.
Has anyone else gone through this? Did you stay and grieve the life you wanted, or leave and start over? And realistically… is 27 too late to find someone else and still have the family I’ve always wanted?