u/CryptoShizz

Alright, let me start off by saying that I appreciate this reddit page for these kind of situations in life. This gives me a chance to just write this off of me and send it into the world.

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Let me try to keep it briefly, even if it this got some history to it.

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I met a friend around 12 years ago with who I had a close bond with, she and I really understood eachother, we could talk for hours and had so much fun. I really had a feeling that this was my best friend. I would literally do anything for her at the time. But by the time I needed her I came to the conclusion this was a one-way street. Besides that, she had a new lover every month and was convinced every time that that was the one for her...

Now she had another boyfriend that was just way too weird too fit into this world, let alone in friendships.

This was around the same time I felt let down and put everything in perspective.

I just had to cut her off, and I felt lost for a while, but it was for the best.

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Some years went on, I finally had a real relationship myself and this was the first time I really fell in love myself.

This relationship lasted for 2,5 years...

I felt destroyed when it ended, and I am still healing from it, even if it's been 3 years since already. But this is not of real importance for the story.

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Around 2 years ago I came in touch with my old friend for a brief moment and told her what was going on in my life, and we chatted a bit. This was on Tinder by the way, it shouldn't be a surprise for me to find her there. I clicked Like out of curiosity and we matched. A day or 2 later I deleted the account because I don't really like this app and way of dating.

We lost touch, for now...

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But, maybe around 4 months ago I had another weak moment where I downloaded the app. I found her on Tinder again! Now we talked longer, she told me about her life. I thought maybe it would be fun to see eachother in real life after all these years.

So we decided to meet up, and when we saw eachother we felt like it was the same as before. So now we started to see eachother more often. We had sleepovers (we did not sleep with eachother), deep conversations, good advice, support, fun. Everything was great and she said she was so happy with me back in her life. We had the same things that we liked and wanted to work on some projects together. I took her on a holiday last month with my family, it was all great.

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Now here is where it gets interesting...

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She had guy that was stalking her (according to her side of the story), so I offered help and called that guy and heard him out and gave him some friendly advice to not call again and leave her alone. That worked, all good.

Now I had not heard from her in a couple days, this ofcourse is normal in a friendship, nothing strange. But we had an event planned for some time already and it was coming up. So we talked, how is it going? "Yeah, perfect, actually." She said. She told me she met a guy who she really liked and this could be the one...

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In my head I thought here we go again but let her find out on her own. As a friend I should wish the best for her.

Now the day of the event is coming up. Before this guy she would have been sleeping at my place so we could leave right away to the event the next day. But I said that does not look like a good option now, I will pick you up.

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Day of the event, I pick her up, her new boyfriend brought her at the pick up place. He did not wanted to meet me, and she told me he was kinda jealous and he had some issues with our friendship...

But he wishes her a great day, we went to the event. But when we were heading back, she got a message of the guy saying the relationship is over. I was not surprised and I tried not to say much about it. But after a while she asked me and I gave my 2 cents on the matter at hand. She agreed, wanted her stuff back and was totally over him...

I dropped her off, we had a tea and talked shortly and I went home.

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We had another event planned like 3 weeks later.

I thought I should give her her time to heal and wait for her message...but it never came.

After a weak I sent her a message...no reply.

Next day I asked if everything was alright...no reply.

The next day I got a very short message: "Will text you after holiday, bye."

I thought this was a little strange, but soon I realised that she was going on vacation with that guy before. So I now knew she was not healing in that time without contact...she was back to that guy (who did not want me in her life).

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This time I was like: Wow, she has not changed a bit. Her loyalty is not in our friendship, it's in het desires for these short term toxic relationships.

I was like: Not again, not this time.

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I still waited for the reply after her vacation...

We had tickets for Comic Con that we had already paid for, and time was closing in.

I told another friend about the event and he would love to go, but the event was sold out.

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I waited until thursday (2 days before the event) to contact her. This time I did not ask her how is it going... I just said: "Hey, I did not hear from you anymore. But the event is in 2 days and I have a feeling you're too busy for it nowadays. But, there is good news, I found someone else to go with, and he would like to buy your ticket."

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Her reply was very short, not like we always talked, but she was willing to sell my friend the ticket so I was happy I could still go. She added to the message: Can you come and pick your stuff up that I got from you at my house?

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That made me laugh, I thought how rude is that. She does not even feel some sort of shame for ghosting her best friend and even doubles down on it by letting me get my stuff from her house.

I did not show any form of emotion, I just went along with it. I just said: Yeah, that's what I wanted to ask next! Let me come and pick it up after Comic Con so I don't need to come and drive to your house for it later on. She agreed...

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Today was the event, it was fun.

When we left I texted her: "Can I come and pick it up? I am leaving now."

She said it was cool, she was at home.

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Now I got there and texted her when I parked in front of her door. I said I'm in front of your door, and she came down. I did not even greet her, I just got the bag from her hands and I wanted to get back in the car...

But she wanted to HUH ME?! I was like wtf 🤣 nooo, I don't want your hug.

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I was flabbergasted by this action!

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Anyways, end of the story.

The friendship ends here, for obvious reasons.

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Thank you for reading a story of my life. Please let me know what you think about it.

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