"do u want to watch me fuck your ex?" has got to be one of the stupidest questions ive ever been asked in my entire life (looking for advice)
i (26NB) have a recent ex (22TransMasc, we'll call him O) that i remained very close friends with that has been hanging out with this poly couple for the past month or so and the guy (31M, we'll call him A) is highkey obsessed with him. constantly going out to see him, constantly posting about him on his instagram story, the whole nine yards. the couple is engaged and almost 10 years older than O, and A gives me really gross fuckboy vibes and has admitted to lying to me to try to get me to stop cockblocking him.
for context, O has intense sexual trauma that made it so that he isn't really cool with being touched or having sex with anyone (or so he told me) and that was the main reason we broke up bc my primary love language is physical touch and i cannot have a sexless relationship.
"do u want to watch me fuck O?" was something A asked me in my instagram DMs a few days ago while he was drunk and this was also when he lied to me telling me he had already fucked O and that O was really into both himself and his fiancee. he admitted that it was a lie the next day after i threatened to block both of them bc O told me that didn't happen and i couldn't tell which one of them was lying. A said he asked me that question bc he assumed i would think it was "hot and gay". which according to him is also the same reason he thought it would be okay to grab O's face and forcefully make out with him in the passenger seat of my car the first time i met him irl, which happened 5 days after O and i broke up.
for some reason i cant convince O to stop spending with these people even though it's very obvious they are unicorn hunting and trying to get him in bed with them.
one thing i REALLY hate about this is the fact that im upset about this whole situation makes me feel like a crazy jealous ex, but its not entirely bc im jealous, its bc im seeing a really gross and potentially dangerous situation that someone very close to me that i care about a lot is happily walking into.
what can i do? pls feel free to ask questions if more context/explanantion is needed