Limpia Reading - Not Sure What to Think
So I am AuDHD and it’s really hard for me to make friends as an adult. Simply because I don’t go out of my way to make them because I have had so much trauma from friendships when I was younger, that I really keep to myself.
This friend kind of came out of nowhere. We had been mutuals most of our life, but she started heavily interacting with me and I noticed that she was following a lot of the same pages as me, we had similar interests, like…really similar. So of course I was excited to have a new friend. Our friendship moved really fast and my other friend pointed out that she was love bombing me and that it was weird. I was like no, she is neurodivergent too and just excited to have a friend with similar interests!! I gave her the benefit of the doubt. Something happened where she stopped talking to me for a while and I had a gut feeling she was with my ex. I was right. She ended up sending me a message apologizing for dating him and not telling me. That kind of hurt my feelings. I just wish she would have said something. Well my friend was like “Absolutely NOT. She only became your friend because she was seeing your ex and wanted to get close to you to absorb your personality and figure out why he ghosted her and liked you.” I thought that was a crazy take, that would be an extreme length to go to try and get a guy to like you as an adult…but my friend was really adamant about it. So I did an evil eye egg cleanse to see if this girl is really siphoning my energy and I don’t know how to interpret it.
I have read and compared it to other posts online, but maybe it’s the AuDHD. Or maybe it’s me not wanting to admit that she isn’t a real friend. I also don’t want to just write someone off for misreading a yolk.
Just looking at it, would you feel she has negative intentions. I get there’s a string hanging, but I thought too much into it and convinced myself that it could be because of me questioning the trust in the friendship.
I’m married now and while I wish she would have told me she was seeing my ex, it genuinely wouldn’t phase me if she did want to date him. But my friend thinks I should be more cautious and take it as a sign that she’s not my friend for the right reasons and now I’m torn. 😭😭