I (19NB) found explicit searches on my boyfriend's (20M) phone.
Context: I am 19 and nonbinary. My boyfriend is a trans man. We have been together for a little over a year and live together.
I couldn't sleep at all last night and by the time I went to bed my boyfriend's alarm was going off. I know he doesn't have work early and usually switches it off either way so I went in and turned it off myself. While I had his phone I went through it. I know it's wrong and an invasion of privacy but I did. I saw he had twitter installed which I thought was odd because he had told me about a bad experience he had on the app about 2 months ago which caused him to delete the app. I opened it up and the first few things recommended were explicit videos and clips of explicit videos. Okay, maybe he doesn't use it much - this is how my home page looked before I fixed it. Then I went into searches. "Big clit," "lesbian porn," "fucking homeless people," and "porn" were recent.
As someone who used to watch explicit content very often I can understand some of those searches so I'm not one to judge. But he's not someone who watches those things often (or at least I didn't think he was.) We would have conversations about things like that and he would say, "I just never saw the appeal," or "Why would I want to see people in a moment that should be intimate?" So it took me by surprise to have seen that on his phone. It feels like he's been lying to me about something that I've struggled with - something that he has some idea of but had never opened up about because I was scared of his judgement.
I just don't know what to do. Any advice?