Couple therapist called me not normal and more. Is this normal practice or..?
Long story short, my husband and I are in couples therapy. A big part of the issues in our marriage has become political differences. I am struggling to separate my husband from the people he has supported in the past due to my own past trauma (I have been SA'd). In a most recent session, a few things happened with our therapist:
- She gave an example that if someone was a rapist but had good economic policy versus someone who was not a rapist but had bad economic policy, then the rapist is a better choice for a leader. Hence, I shouldn't hold my husband accountable for picking and choosing what he likes about a person. (We are not from the USA. This is not about the politicians there.)
- When I said I worry about future conversations and discourse, she said that is not normal.
- At the end, she made a comment that I might be on the spectrum (I am not; I do have OCD, though, and have been diagnosed many years ago) due to my rigidity in the therapy sessions.
I am not sure how to feel about all of this, cause she knows I am a rape victim, and it feels kinda strange for a therapist to be saying all that? I'm not sure if it's just tough love and I am overreacting, or if I should request to switch therapists?