Advice please?
So I need outside opinions because my friends are tired of hearing about this man and I genuinely cannot tell if I’m being delusional or if there’s actually something here.
Me and this guy started speaking in January literally THREE days before he flew back to his home country (he lives in the UK though). I saw him the last two days before he left and instantly thought wow… this is exactly my type. European, tall,drives, confident, really sweet at first. The second night we slept together and honestly I thought it would just end there once he flew home.
But it didn’t.
We spoke every single day while he was away. Good morning texts, updates, random photos, even videos. At one point he literally sent me a video from a taxi that looked half hanging off a snowy mountain road
Anyway he comes back to the UK and takes me out for food. We ended up eating it in his car and then he drove to his house without warning me. I’m already an anxious person so when he casually goes “you’ll have to meet my parents” I genuinely thought I was going to pass away.
We sat outside his house for like half an hour because I was panicking but eventually we went in and honestly… it went perfect. I hugged his mum, hugged his dad, and when we were alone again he kissed my forehead and told me his parents thought I was beautiful.
TELL ME WHY AFTER THAT THIS MAN COMPLETELY SWITCHED.
Suddenly I’m getting left on delivered for hours. Opened messages. Dry replies. He’d disappear until he wanted to see me again and then act normal in person. It genuinely started messing with my head because whenever we’re together it feels SO good and natural, but when we’re apart it’s like I barely exist to him.
A few days before his birthday I finally blocked him because I was upset and tired of feeling stupid. FOUR DAYS LATER he rings me asking why I removed him. I told him straight up it’s because he never speaks to me properly anymore and he said he’s “busy with work.”which I didn’t understand because my point was how was you able to keep a conversation with me from across the country but not five minutes down the road?
Here’s the thing though… my friend’s ex is HIS friend, and apparently he told them he doesn’t even work right now??? So now I don’t know what to believe because every cancelled plan or excuse has apparently been “work.” Or was “tired” because of work
But stupidly I added him back anyway.
A few days later I saw him again and I swear every single time I’m around him I catch feelings all over again. I brought up how distant he got and told him sometimes I feel like maybe I’ve done something wrong or maybe I’m “too much” or “not enough.” He said he was just going through things mentally and didn’t want to speak to anyone properly while dealing with it.
And honestly? I would’ve believed that completely if he didn’t disappear for TWO WEEKS after.
We haven’t spoken since.
The embarrassing part is… deep down I still feel like me and him are to become something eventually. I KNOW how insane that sounds because logically I can see the mixed signals. But my friend originally set me up with him because apparently he’s never had good relationships and she said I have “too much love to give.” And whenever I’m with him I get this weird stomach feeling like something good is about to happen.
I genuinely cannot tell if this is intuition or me romanticising a man who gives me the bare minimum.
Do I leave this alone or do you think there’s actually something here?