MIL didn't acknowledge my first mother's day
The further Mother's Day gets behind me, the more I realize that my MIL's lack of acknowledgement doesn't sit right with me. I don't want to complain to my husband about his mother (at least not yet) so I'm turning here first to see if I'm overthinking it or making something out of nothing.
Quick background:
My husband and I have been together for over a decade. My MIL and I aren't close at all, but I wouldn't say we have a bad relationship. She just doesn't really put any effort at all into having a relationship with me. I tried for years and then ultimately just stopped trying. That said, she does still expect me and my husband to visit often. When she and I see each other l, it's cordial, but our conversations are surface level at best. An outsider looking in would never know that we've known each other for over a decade and see each other at least twice a month. Again, this is because we make the effort, not the other way around. There's a lot to unpack in our relationship, but after years of taking things personally, I've tried to just let things be.
That brings us to this past mother's Day. It was my first as a mother. And even though it was my first and my husband had a full day planned for me that Sunday (he's the best), my husband and I made it a point to still see his mother the day before. It honestly never crossed my mind not to. We took her out to a very nice lunch with the baby in toe. I also personally gave her a gift separately from my husband. I had a wonderful Sunday, and it wasn't until the following Monday that I realized she didn't do anything to acknowledge mine. Not a card, not a gift, not a text-- nothing. It didn't bother me much at first but it's been nagging at me ever since. The more I sit with it, the more I think this proves to me that she really can't be bothered to put in the tiniest bit of effort in my direction. I feel like this mother's day was a layup and that strangers gave me more thought than she did.
Am I putting too much stock into a hallmark holiday? Is this a glaring example of how little regard she has for me? Is it somewhere in the middle? I truly don't know how to feel and would appreciate the opinions of outsiders so I can know if I'm just crazy or if I have a reason to feel bothered.