A married guy in mid 30’s approached me (28M) at the gym
Ok before I start I just want to clarify that I am not sure if its a rant post because of how much annoyed I am or is it just a question/ sign to my inner self who’s getting pressurized by family to get married..
So the other day I was at the gym on a busy hour doing my leg day and this man in mid 30’s happens to be working out. He was there before me and once I arrived I started off with leg curls right after warmup. Suddenly for some reason this guy also wants to use the same machine at the same time - happens very common. So we took turns between each set.
Then I jumped on to the next machine and he wants to use the same machine. This continued till I noticed so I just casually stopped my workout and came to the cardio area and simply sat doing nothing but just scrolling.
After about 15-20 minutes i went back to complete my workout and he was still there and he started giving me “cruising” looks. I ignored (cus i don’t wanna mess around at the gym for sure) until i noticed the bulge he had. Before i was completely ignoring him but now I may have looked at his bulge for quite long because i couldn’t resist lol but at the same time i didn’t want to mess around at the gym for sure.
I went back to the cardio area hoping to avoid him completely and he followed me. I was sitting on the bicycle machine and this guy comes extremely close to me but was still acting unaware and started asking me stupid questions like how to use this machine what all modes does it have and is it beneficial to use lol. All the while he was trying his best to rub his bulge against my legs.
He then took out his phone and he had a family photo as wallpaper with his wife and a cute little kid (prolly 1-2 years or older). Well this is where I draw a solid boundary like i can’t be playing around with guys (or anyone) who are married because i feel empathetic for their wives. But this guy had a little kid thats what made me even more upset.
I said a loud “NO”, gave him a look that I am sure he will never forget and left the place.
I believe this is a sign for me to man up and be explicit to my family about me not wanting to get married. Like it would be such a nightmare if I would be at his place in 5-6 years.